tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post116361004328190383..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: About Affection: Part Three Behavioral Therapytherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-79889191578173622602009-04-19T13:31:00.000-05:002009-04-19T13:31:00.000-05:00thanks - Sounds like it worked in your family, to ...thanks - Sounds like it worked in your family, to make sure everyone knew without a doubt. That's what I'm going for!<br />At least I know that if I die (and I had a heart attack in January), there will be proof of my existence, a funeral and a grave and no one can burn all the pictures of me (thank you Facebook!).Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-36774316893956963552009-04-18T20:23:00.000-05:002009-04-18T20:23:00.000-05:00Oh, I think it does.Oh, I think it does.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-56587128940002688712009-04-17T20:16:00.000-05:002009-04-17T20:16:00.000-05:00My brother died before I was born. I wish my paren...My brother died before I was born. I wish my parents had made that love pledge for me and my brother & sister who lived.<br />I did learn from it - my husband and I exchange "I love yous" every day, and I tell my kids and demonstrate it to my kids. I remind them even after yelling or time out that I always love them. I hope it works.Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-58096680829298515812009-03-21T15:57:00.000-05:002009-03-21T15:57:00.000-05:00Thank you TD for this post. I always thought it w...Thank you TD for this post. I always thought it was just my dad who withdrew when things changed. And I always thought it was because I got hurt when I was 12...that maybe even he thought it would have been better if I was a brave, dead kid instead of a live, broken one. He is 86 now -- and frail. And maybe it is not too late for me to find a way to make it right. Thanks again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1165201446202960742006-12-03T21:04:00.000-06:002006-12-03T21:04:00.000-06:00Wonderful wonderful wonderful piece- wonderful fan...Wonderful wonderful wonderful piece- wonderful fantastic piece. I will definitely be back at this blog- you write brilliantly and this is such common sense and unusual common sense. Brilliant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1165117550488907302006-12-02T21:45:00.000-06:002006-12-02T21:45:00.000-06:00I hate winter, too...that's why I left Chicago. ;)...I hate winter, too...that's why I left Chicago. ;) I never got any positive affection from my parents, so I make sure that it is a top priority with my own kid. Thanks for this informative post...and thanks for the link!Marj aka Thriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06825698906631474866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164952509453033222006-11-30T23:55:00.000-06:002006-11-30T23:55:00.000-06:00Oh, Mom. You actually got me teared up, and then ...Oh, Mom. You actually got me teared up, and then Surkie's comment did me in. Thanks for being wonderful.Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12318757890145663883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164911055500845592006-11-30T12:24:00.000-06:002006-11-30T12:24:00.000-06:00Oh, so now I discover your therapy blog online. On...Oh, so now I discover your therapy blog online. Only after thousands of dollars spent on therapy. Jeez.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164829778182762542006-11-29T13:49:00.000-06:002006-11-29T13:49:00.000-06:00I knew where this was going from the start, but it...I knew where this was going from the start, but it was still very touching. Wonderful job, mom.YZFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06404344086361978118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164729336082961622006-11-28T09:55:00.000-06:002006-11-28T09:55:00.000-06:00Linda,Excellent post. This is a heart touching sto...Linda,<BR/>Excellent post. This is a heart touching story that every parent should read. Love is a verb, meaning that we need to take action, the kiss you exchanged with your Father each time he came home was a wonderful action that helped to express your mutual love.<BR/>You have touched the world again today and made a positive impact on more than you will ever know!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164688070489716872006-11-27T22:27:00.000-06:002006-11-27T22:27:00.000-06:00Kind of scary, isn't it, how such a simple concept...Kind of scary, isn't it, how such a simple concept can be so hard?therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164686932084418032006-11-27T22:08:00.000-06:002006-11-27T22:08:00.000-06:00Thank you.I may just send this link to a few peopl...Thank you.<BR/><BR/>I may just send this link to a few people I love.jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17322709527738134797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164685287798559542006-11-27T21:41:00.000-06:002006-11-27T21:41:00.000-06:00Lin, I loved your blog today. I didn't remember a...Lin, I loved your blog today. I didn't remember all the details of that horrible February. But our meeting was in the dining room! Love ya, momAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164673999838902282006-11-27T18:33:00.000-06:002006-11-27T18:33:00.000-06:00Wow, and here I was about to take it down. Okay, ...Wow, and here I was about to take it down. Okay, you're welcome. <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I love that idea about kids with ADHD, but you'll be put in serious cherem (purgatory?) if you ever express it to a parent who has tried SO hard and been more than patient and has gotten NOWHERE with affection.<BR/><BR/>But if experience changes physiology, and we think it does, it makes a case for affection in any case.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164669041175484472006-11-27T17:10:00.000-06:002006-11-27T17:10:00.000-06:00Dear Doc, thank-you for today's blog----oops---I'v...Dear Doc, thank-you for today's blog----oops---I've just become amazingly inarticulate----your parents are GREAT and you have taken your family lessons to help the world. Thank-you is too trite----I need a better phrase---You are generous with your knowledge---maybe there is a better word in Yiddish for gratitude.....maybe that word covers more than thank-you. Deb.....P.S. I think I might finally get this blogging right.bjurstromhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075698121876121820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164663110525004852006-11-27T15:31:00.000-06:002006-11-27T15:31:00.000-06:00Physical affection in a sexual context (mutually-a...Physical affection in a sexual context (mutually-attracted non-taboo individuals) stimulates adrenaline levels and, to some degree, the adrenocorticoid hormones, which is exciting.<BR/><BR/>But physical affection in a non-sexual context (e.g.--parent/child) stimulates endorphin levels which give a calming and lasting substrate to the central nervous system, especially those areas of the brain that affect appetite, reasoning, and learning. <BR/><BR/>I wonder how many of our ADD/HD -labeled children are simply lacking the necessary neuroendocrine balance provided by an affectionate family?<BR/><BR/>Thanks for an important post, and for sharing both the clinical vignette and a lot of yourself.Familydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08621170596515266462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1164662220180564242006-11-27T15:17:00.000-06:002006-11-27T15:17:00.000-06:00I'm so proud of you for sharing that! What a wond...I'm so proud of you for sharing that! What a wonderful message. A wise woman once counseled me to teach kids to be good because they want to - not because they feel they have to. Because one day those kids will grow up and realize no one can make them be or do anything...and what will they have learned if all they got growing up was force - be it physical or otherwise? Love is the only tool powerful enough to succeed. Thanks again for the share.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>Holly<BR/><A HREF="http://www.hollyscorner.com" REL="nofollow">Holly's Corner</A>Holly Schwendimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06411303601482249888noreply@blogger.com