tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post1708828018425145942..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: The Speaker at the Funeraltherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-40866187960077554712008-05-22T22:30:00.001-05:002008-05-22T22:30:00.001-05:00I'd go so far as to say, a fantastic place to cry....I'd go so far as to say, a fantastic place to cry. Let the flood gates open! We lost someone.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-41114605008787261052008-05-22T22:30:00.000-05:002008-05-22T22:30:00.000-05:00I'd go so far as to say, a fantastic place to cry....I'd go so far as to say, a fantastic place to cry. Let the flood gates open! We lost someone.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-84669480782206403912008-05-22T22:20:00.000-05:002008-05-22T22:20:00.000-05:00I don't know about this. I've been crying at funer...I don't know about this. I've been crying at funerals ever since I started doing them, and I expect I always well - for friends as well as for people I never knew.<BR/><BR/>Certainly, many people don't feel comfortable with public mourning, with that degree of emotional exposure, and they're entitled to their space. So when people are on the fence about eulogizing, I don't push - but, I do remind them that a funeral is an "acceptable" time to cry.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-17473272185724323152008-05-22T10:16:00.000-05:002008-05-22T10:16:00.000-05:00My best friend lost her father just a month ago.Yo...My best friend lost her father just a month ago.Your blog reminded me of that.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for leaving encouraging comment on my blog ,I started this blog just last week.shraddhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13549183128453714957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-31711325678263906542008-05-21T20:41:00.000-05:002008-05-21T20:41:00.000-05:00Carol, I'm so sorry for your loss.Leora, Yeah. An...Carol, I'm so sorry for your loss.<BR/><BR/>Leora, Yeah. And I'd go a step further, add, not denying feelings is key. They're going to beg for attention otherwise, may as well give them their due.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-48658118337914329552008-05-21T19:34:00.000-05:002008-05-21T19:34:00.000-05:00it's just the two of usI'm sure your friend apprec...<I>it's just the two of us</I><BR/>I'm sure your friend appreciated your shiva call very much.<BR/><BR/>We paid a shiva call on Erev Pesach. We and one other person were the only ones there. I felt it was really important to our friend that we took out the time from the otherwise most hectic day in the Jewish calendar to visit him.<BR/><BR/>I guess there are no rules to when it's good to cry or not, but it's really about being in touch with the sad feelings, right, not the actual crying?Leorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12303493764579879710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-22646377075400548262008-05-21T17:27:00.000-05:002008-05-21T17:27:00.000-05:00I followed a link from a comment you left on my bl...I followed a link from a comment you left on my blog (for a post I wrote about Blog Carnivals) and was surprised to see the subject of this post.<BR/><BR/>But it is so relevant. My brother and I recently lost my Father. At his service my brother read out the eulogy I wrote. Writing it wasn't a problem, but I knew that I wouldn't cope with delivering it - even though I am a professional speaker.<BR/><BR/>My brother is not a professional speaker - but he did a wonderful job. The warmth in his voice as he read my words reached out to everyone.<BR/><BR/>As you say, everyone grieves in a different way. Doing this one last thing together for my Father helped us both with our grieving; for me by allowing me to retain my composure and for my brother being able to share our memories of my Father and his sense of humour.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing this story.<BR/><BR/>Carol BentleyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com