tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post2135396715349852571..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: Relativelytherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-61222652529968806242008-05-16T06:42:00.000-05:002008-05-16T06:42:00.000-05:00When people ask me, Why am I taking up an hour of ...When people ask me, Why am I taking up an hour of your time. . .I always say, <BR/><BR/>(a) you only get 45 minutes and <BR/>(b) that's obviously not enough or you wouldn't be coming back.<BR/><BR/>Your misery is your misery is your misery. You're complicated.<BR/><BR/>And when you're in the office, the therapist cares about no one or anything else. Ideally.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-34255867413103982142008-05-16T06:24:00.000-05:002008-05-16T06:24:00.000-05:00How about the opposite? I tell my therapist - "Th...How about the opposite? I tell my therapist - "There are people out there so much worse off than me - why am I taking up an hour of your time when you can be using it to help people who are really hurting?" or "Why should I work on making my life better - I'm so much luckier than so many other people out there", etc etc. That's a whole other problem I suppose.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-52461194417286830252008-05-15T03:23:00.000-05:002008-05-15T03:23:00.000-05:00Poor me. Pity pot. I can't believe we haven't ta...Poor me. Pity pot. I can't believe we haven't talked about this yet, but we haven't.<BR/><BR/>Right-o, this is the WRONG way to go.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-46916489201855001172008-05-15T01:26:00.000-05:002008-05-15T01:26:00.000-05:00I think that's a good point to keep in mind - the ...I think that's a good point to keep in mind - the poor-me-ism. It's so easy, for me for sure, to slip into a pity party when I think about this stuff. In fact, I deliberately do the 'comparison shopping' thing on occasion. I try not to but it's a slippery slope, and I try and be all Zen-like about it but it's not always so easy. It seems too artificial sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-28345857522418479282008-05-14T21:22:00.000-05:002008-05-14T21:22:00.000-05:00I did not know this was called "relativism" but no...I did not know this was called "relativism" but now I do .. thanks. And yes, it definately has its time and place. You have prompted me to blog about one of my own personal examples of using it in my life. It snapped me out of the claws of poor-me-ism.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-46271651557252263092008-05-14T14:57:00.000-05:002008-05-14T14:57:00.000-05:00La speaks well. Thanks, La.And Margo, I'm working...La speaks well. Thanks, La.<BR/><BR/>And Margo, I'm working on it. Have been a little tied up. For example, I had to suffer through the second half of There Will Be Blood. <BR/><BR/>Why? I'm not sure. But There Will Be . . .is the new tag line. There will be bills. There will be dinner. There will be voice mail.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-39718908722474788822008-05-14T14:18:00.000-05:002008-05-14T14:18:00.000-05:00If it's OK to jump in here ...>>when i am in a dee...If it's OK to jump in here ...<BR/><BR/>>>when i am in a deep depression i feel guilt because my suffering is of my own creation, i have a life better than so many others in the world, yet can't get out of bed while others endure unspeakable suffering<BR/><BR/>Does guilt help you or them? I'm betting it doesn't motivate you to leap out of bed and organise a tinned food drive. Probably it only makes you feels so worse. So when you're feeling bad why make yourself feel worse?<BR/><BR/>When you feel better, you'll do more so for now don't be so hard on yourself.lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15596739497161509946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-75941458472476497212008-05-14T13:40:00.000-05:002008-05-14T13:40:00.000-05:00Did you ever finish the Krauss book?Did you ever finish the Krauss book?Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12318757890145663883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-49676632097524057932008-05-14T13:16:00.000-05:002008-05-14T13:16:00.000-05:00To say, of my own creation is too limiting, I thin...To say, of my own creation is too limiting, I think. Thinking systems a person sees the self, sure, but also all the other people, things, circumstances, etc. that contribute to the "suffering."therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-48834171554212536322008-05-14T12:04:00.000-05:002008-05-14T12:04:00.000-05:00you say that you hear it from the other side of th...you say that you hear it from the other side of the couch "Not only don't I care about people running for their lives in the Congo. But I feel guilty for not caring". but when i am in a deep depression i feel guilt because my suffering is of my own creation, i have a life better than so many others in the world, yet can't get out of bed while others endure unspeakable suffering.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-28880927551755084522008-05-14T10:19:00.000-05:002008-05-14T10:19:00.000-05:00Oooh! Those two are married? I did not know that! ...Oooh! Those two are married? I did not know that! *hears the pillow talk*lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15596739497161509946noreply@blogger.com