tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post241973426487303908..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: The End Stagetherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-21612524764708390482008-05-26T10:30:00.000-05:002008-05-26T10:30:00.000-05:00Just had to put my cat down after 13 wonderful yea...Just had to put my cat down after 13 wonderful years - keep telling myself that death is a part of life and that, as a pet owner, I have a responsibility to make sure that they don't suffer...still, there is grief and questions about the big picture. Most say, "It was justa cat". I know better.porcini66https://www.blogger.com/profile/00547909036887434734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-87892298613405908132008-05-21T15:53:00.000-05:002008-05-21T15:53:00.000-05:00Busted.Busted.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-4475458142542954662008-05-21T15:16:00.000-05:002008-05-21T15:16:00.000-05:00My aquarium has been empty for 3 years largely bec...My aquarium has been empty for 3 years largely because my husband just cannot deal with the frequency of death.<BR/><BR/>By the way did you wash that net after you fished him out of the toilet? HmmDeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17083331411694803694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-80741523173269961402008-05-21T12:01:00.000-05:002008-05-21T12:01:00.000-05:00Ouch. That is harsh. Having to take in a terminal ...Ouch. That is harsh. Having to take in a terminal fish, without being aware of that.<BR/><BR/>Having to witness the death not once (in the tank), not twice (in the toilet) yet three times. Involving a Ziplock bag.<BR/><BR/>Ugh.<BR/><BR/>I did enjoy the story and the analogy, however. Sometimes it is time to let go, whether we're ready or not. <BR/><BR/>And sometimes, after a while, there's a story attached that makes you smile. In retrospect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-77371689292011820582008-05-20T12:57:00.000-05:002008-05-20T12:57:00.000-05:00You don't look back.You don't look back.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-58257257518680114722008-05-20T12:33:00.000-05:002008-05-20T12:33:00.000-05:00I think one thing you realize when you have enough...I think one thing you realize when you have enough fish for long enough is that, inevitably, they die. It was hard getting used to, and took some harboring of the SO calling my tank the "tank of death" before I realized that a couple years for a freshwater fish, for example, is a really long time. These are wild fish in a human-manufactured environment. :)<BR/><BR/>Don't feel bad. I'd love to see a pic of his tank, though! I'm thinking of moving into saltwater in a few years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-53912444299990972062008-05-20T10:12:00.000-05:002008-05-20T10:12:00.000-05:00Maybe it's an aquarist thing.Maybe it's an aquarist thing.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-45755410090338757392008-05-20T10:00:00.000-05:002008-05-20T10:00:00.000-05:00Interesting post. Much like the moments surroundin...Interesting post. Much like the moments surrounding the time that we enter this world, the moments surrounding our departure send ripples throughout the universe, inspiring, painful, loving, tragic -- gazillions of possibilities. And it IS about not having control -- because, ultimately, we have so little control anyway. And when we have to give up that tiny bit of control, when it's time to "let go", how does it happen? Panic and fear? Grace and peace? Resignation? Fighting to the bitter end? I imagine that FD takes his role in that process seriously... which is why he makes the distinction between his own patients and the drop-offs, the people who end up in his care because they had nowhere else to go to "let go". For a doc who takes that part seriously, that's gotta feel yucky.<BR/><BR/>The fish analogy, esp a fish who ends up in a ziplock bag in a dumpster, didn't work so well for me. I'm sure there are families who respond to death as Humah did. And caregivers who feel responsible, as you did. Still, the analogy didn't work for me. Sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-21391451368240306842008-05-20T08:55:00.000-05:002008-05-20T08:55:00.000-05:00as I am sure FD has heard us joke in our family be...as I am sure FD has heard us joke in our family before:<BR/><BR/>we have a running joke in our house, when the paint dr gets to that stage, we hand him a scotch, time magazine, and a couch, and he goes out into the backyard till the end. we figure he won't know the diff anyway! <BR/><BR/>(for those who will be offended, i'm sorry, but our fams sense of humor is a bit out there. my dad just laughs, and says so what, the grandkids get the inheritance anyway!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-50842406537861120262008-05-20T05:53:00.000-05:002008-05-20T05:53:00.000-05:00Yeah, you know how it goes, here today, gone tomor...Yeah, you know how it goes, here today, gone tomorrow. <BR/><BR/>It's really for the whole idea of the helplessness of End Stage that I wrote the post. I never cared much either way for the Butterfly :)therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-15317816807795759322008-05-20T02:41:00.000-05:002008-05-20T02:41:00.000-05:00Oh no. I'm sorry. Totally relatable.Oh no. I'm sorry. Totally relatable.Isle Dancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04755103029114698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-26180612505949940362008-05-19T22:15:00.000-05:002008-05-19T22:15:00.000-05:00I revisited your previous post, and video, on Huma...I revisited your previous post, and video, on Humah and Blenny and Blue. Is the Butterfly in that tank? I'm beginning to wonder if we aren't beginning to see why Humah's former owner gave him up so cheaply? Maybe he's a bully? <BR/><BR/>In any case, its sad to lose a fish, any fish, and especially under your watch. But I think your dh put it in perspective.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.com