tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post4372651003473356310..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: Dependency and Sabatagetherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-12644299072643678832010-06-02T23:05:15.423-05:002010-06-02T23:05:15.423-05:00That's the beauty of it, it's like a parad...That's the beauty of it, it's like a paradox. You can never truly love someone unless you can live without her.haileyhttp://middlechildpersonality.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-91538281608646893392008-06-23T20:48:00.000-05:002008-06-23T20:48:00.000-05:00Hey, maybe he'll find it. I hope so.Hey, maybe he'll find it. I hope so.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-86118703006842147822008-06-23T18:36:00.000-05:002008-06-23T18:36:00.000-05:00Something you said here is what i foresee for my c...Something you said here is what i foresee for my cousin and his potential marriage. My cousin's parents are getting separated/divorced and he has moved in with his fiance's family and is trying to replace the arguing and screaming of his family - with her supposedly more perfect family. I don't know how well this will work out in the long run once him and his fiance have an argument. He does seem to be searching for love and approval from his "new" family.<BR/><BR/>- JustMeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-35565581411652678732008-01-24T21:46:00.000-06:002008-01-24T21:46:00.000-06:00good ole' larry david one of my favorite actors......good ole' larry david one of my favorite actors.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-47176521005023828612008-01-06T12:49:00.000-06:002008-01-06T12:49:00.000-06:00Linz, you're on the right track. It's never simpl...Linz, you're on the right track. It's never simple.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-61853095465110773562008-01-06T12:39:00.000-06:002008-01-06T12:39:00.000-06:00Intimacy. That makes sense :)(sorry to confuse)......Intimacy. That makes sense :)<BR/><BR/>(sorry to confuse)<BR/>...I meant when efforts to be independant go too far, when it borders on the other half hearing "I don't need you"<BR/><BR/>I'm starting to wonder if that's where the 'Seven Year Itch' comes from... the focus leaves the <I>wonder that is US</I> and the self needs some oiling and dusting off... before you know it the good bits of <I>US</I> are getting unravelled routing out the good bits of the old self.<BR/><BR/>?Linzi P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02885236633875203791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-77706936353925409472008-01-04T14:09:00.000-06:002008-01-04T14:09:00.000-06:00LINZ, I'm not sure I get exactly what you mean, bu...LINZ, I'm not sure I get exactly what you mean, but the optimal relationship does not sacrifice intimacy for independence. Intimacy is valued more highly.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-63185100571914589952008-01-04T12:28:00.000-06:002008-01-04T12:28:00.000-06:00(Sorry to go off course but...)What about when two...(Sorry to go off course but...)<BR/><BR/>What about when two people become TOO independant... drifting into appearing like they're not considering the other because doing so could be misconstrude?<BR/><BR/>What do you do then?Linzi P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02885236633875203791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-62538956815650766972007-10-08T19:06:00.000-05:002007-10-08T19:06:00.000-05:00Thanks for submitting this article to the FitBuff ...Thanks for submitting this article to the FitBuff Carnival. I've Dugg and Stumbled this post individually, so please return the favor by Digging and Stumbling the carnival to bring even more readers to your blog:<BR/><BR/>Digg It:<BR/>http://digg.com/health/Total_Mind_and_Body_Fitness_Blog_Carnival_18<BR/><BR/>Stumble It:<BR/>http://www.stumbleupon.com/submit?url=http://www.fitbuff.com/total-mind-and-body-fitness-blog-carnival-18/&title=Total%20Mind%20and%20Body%20Fitness%20Blog%20Carnival%2018Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-15684872246961114112007-10-03T12:56:00.000-05:002007-10-03T12:56:00.000-05:00"The two of them were never more or less. They wer..."The two of them were never more or less. They were always on the same level, the same page when it came to at least that one very important dynamic."<BR/><BR/>Yea, Co-dependence. Barfs. A truly independent person wouldn't be threatened by someone else's independence and they wouldn't even be attracted to a dependent person.So, what IS in a heart?https://www.blogger.com/profile/00482423451947167280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-7863981292588630202007-10-02T19:22:00.000-05:002007-10-02T19:22:00.000-05:00Caroline, It starts with rethinking EVERYTHING. E...Caroline, It starts with rethinking EVERYTHING. Every move you make has to be reexamined.<BR/><BR/>Yes, I'll post on this, too. Gimme a few days (weeks) to get to it.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-52891374467231409412007-10-02T19:13:00.000-05:002007-10-02T19:13:00.000-05:00So Doc, how to those of use who are overly depende...So Doc, how to those of use who are overly dependent due to family of origin circumstances change that behavior and become a more independent person?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-17928097954394220572007-10-02T10:33:00.000-05:002007-10-02T10:33:00.000-05:00Oh, there's still time.Oh, there's still time.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-10851633042563422252007-10-02T10:16:00.000-05:002007-10-02T10:16:00.000-05:00Oh...bummer. The little tyke turned 44 in July.Oh...bummer. The little tyke turned 44 in July.linrob63https://www.blogger.com/profile/07121577698838071322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-70839750391757838072007-10-02T09:50:00.000-05:002007-10-02T09:50:00.000-05:00How I wish. Give the little tyke a little time.How I wish. Give the little tyke a little time.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-46670522022625358042007-10-02T09:28:00.000-05:002007-10-02T09:28:00.000-05:00A follow-up to Not Faint's questions...not so much...A follow-up to Not Faint's questions...not so much programming a child to be overly independent, but circumstances or events that necessitate a child become remarkably independent bearing adult responsibilities and knowledge too soon. Are all such children likely to become ridiculously self-reliant? <BR/><BR/>Thanks for the post...got me thinking.linrob63https://www.blogger.com/profile/07121577698838071322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64268319808989155392007-10-01T23:28:00.000-05:002007-10-01T23:28:00.000-05:00So interesting, MATTHEW, the idea that people choo...So interesting, MATTHEW, the idea that people choose partners to become whole. I've always thought there was something to choosing a partner who is complementary (not as in flattering).therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-44556547564455001042007-10-01T23:01:00.000-05:002007-10-01T23:01:00.000-05:00I have always been influenced by the concepts of B...I have always been influenced by the concepts of Bowen family systems. You describe the underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic very well - one cannot live without the other.<BR/><BR/>The other side, of course, is that being balanced and whole - just as you are - is possible. Most people do not see that in themselves, and so seek to become whole through their partner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-12640146075098533142007-10-01T18:44:00.000-05:002007-10-01T18:44:00.000-05:00I thought you'd never ask. While writing this post...I thought you'd never ask. While writing this post I thought I'd address these very issues (and more)but said to myself, nah, focus for now and see what people want by their comments. <BR/><BR/>This is a big topic and for sure, deserves much more elaboration. You'll get it in the next few weeks. (I know, I always say that, but you really will, blee neder, which is to say, I can't promise but will try).therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-59420518759510234752007-10-01T18:34:00.000-05:002007-10-01T18:34:00.000-05:00What about the child programmed to be "overly" ind...What about the child programmed to be "overly" independent?<BR/><BR/>And how do you tell the level of "overly" before the marriage?<BR/><BR/>And how does the individual ever reach a middle ground between independence and dependence (because really, we're not made to be completely independent.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com