tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post5313032737144953070..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: What's in a Nametherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-72200110531047200342008-12-19T15:46:00.000-06:002008-12-19T15:46:00.000-06:00That movie came out when I was a teen and I got it...That movie came out when I was a teen and I got it - my dad took me to it and I cried, because I knew that mother and that terrible need for control. <BR/><BR/>My oldest child is named David with the roman number 5 after his name. Go figure.Wait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-71512847881420645472008-12-15T16:23:00.000-06:002008-12-15T16:23:00.000-06:00Sorry to be late in coming around, but I enjoyed t...Sorry to be late in coming around, but I enjoyed this post (yes, control, control, the great desire, so much better when we give it up) and wanted to say I'm so sorry about your back - and glad it's better!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15829062955658284450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-16180877664813126572008-12-13T17:22:00.000-06:002008-12-13T17:22:00.000-06:00Not to brag, but it was an inspired moment, the Le...Not to brag, but it was an inspired moment, the Let's Create the Wall of Fame moment.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-66125081288057882042008-12-13T09:59:00.000-06:002008-12-13T09:59:00.000-06:00Ordinary people has been on my list of movies I wa...Ordinary people has been on my list of movies I want to see. I have not gotten far on that list. Just asked my daughter to order it from net flix. <BR/><BR/>When I was naming my Son there were no names I HAD to name him. There were only names I could not name him if didn't want to alienate some of my spouse's family. Which is actually better cause what if I didn't like the name DAvid?<BR/><BR/>The stapling is pure genius. I have boxes and boxes of framed pictures and hanging them up is such a pain. As a matter of fact. Most are still in the big plastic tub.pinkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00198277802918823591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-82945070847913692262008-12-12T06:45:00.000-06:002008-12-12T06:45:00.000-06:00Interesting..Interesting..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-7253188397636848332008-12-10T18:43:00.000-06:002008-12-10T18:43:00.000-06:00Will your next blog installment be about "In Treat...Will your next blog installment be about "In Treatment"? ;-)<BR/><BR/>"Ordinary People" was the first movie my husband and I saw during our courtship. As my therapist would likely say, "pathology attracts pathology." Seemed a little too much like our lives to be a good date flick... ;-)nashbabehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05854830457537986703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-29421674145402133852008-12-10T16:58:00.000-06:002008-12-10T16:58:00.000-06:00Or something. Not all or none, me thinks.Or something. Not all or none, me thinks.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-42359837636787209652008-12-10T16:48:00.000-06:002008-12-10T16:48:00.000-06:00Our parents named the first girl (me) after my mom...Our parents named the first girl (me) after my mom, and first boy after my dad. Throughout childhood there would be hollering for Little Female or Big Female, or Old Female and Young Female (using the name). I wanted my own name, not hers, secondhand. <BR/><BR/>I was told I should cherish my name because my grandfather had been clueless what to call his second daughter (my mom) because they had only had boy names prepared as that's what they wanted. The first beautiful thing he saw in the British Museum on a distracted postnatal walk, gave him the unwelcome female's name. I spent a lifetime picking different nicknames so as NOT to be her (my control). <BR/><BR/>Spouse and I (assortative mating) came from equally messed up families. Have contorted ourselves to shower kids with love, avoid our parents' mistakes and cruelties. Oddly, our kids have much the same neuroses and serious problems as we do. Plus a couple of far worse ones, sadly.<BR/><BR/>Which leads to the occasional despairing wondering if maybe none of it is under our control, but all biological?Retrieverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09036341287285545932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-42363420754144924362008-12-10T15:06:00.000-06:002008-12-10T15:06:00.000-06:00Very good thoughts. My mother was Catholic and she...Very good thoughts. <BR/><BR/>My mother was Catholic and she named each us with a name that would flow well when preceded by Sister or Father, as in Father Mark Timothy or Father Patrick Matthew.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08237538988856751173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-69351813816604646512008-12-10T14:53:00.000-06:002008-12-10T14:53:00.000-06:00Easy one, Rachel. We don't act as well.Easy one, Rachel. We don't act as well.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-55668751299975169392008-12-10T14:45:00.000-06:002008-12-10T14:45:00.000-06:00Wow therapy doc this post rang so true for me. It'...Wow therapy doc this post rang so true for me. It's spooky! Great post. And why don't therapists in real life make as much as those movie guys do :)?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-21740737473995141912008-12-10T13:54:00.000-06:002008-12-10T13:54:00.000-06:00This is funny. And true. Those assertiveness ski...This is funny. And true. Those assertiveness skills are priceless.Isle Dancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04755103029114698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-91375703111548794402008-12-10T13:48:00.000-06:002008-12-10T13:48:00.000-06:00There's a whole side of the family whose names I C...There's a whole side of the family whose names I CAN'T use for this very reason!!! The other side of the family all of our names more than one generation back are all in another language, not really names you can saddle a kiddo with today, even if their namesakes were the most wonderful people ever (which they were). <BR/><BR/>So... we're settling for middle names for family names, and just plain old ones we like for first names. Unfortunately, all the names my husband likes sound like each other and I refuse to have rhyming children.... Ah, the joys of compromise in marriage!Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17472517428832152273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-27294814828856272352008-12-10T11:19:00.000-06:002008-12-10T11:19:00.000-06:00This is a good post with lots of information. I fi...This is a good post with lots of information. I find control issues everywhere I go. And one of my character defects is--controlling. So I see in others what I myself have. Not an uncommon problem.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-40513192565443275732008-12-10T11:17:00.000-06:002008-12-10T11:17:00.000-06:00MAYBE!MAYBE!therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-20687753662961215892008-12-10T10:42:00.000-06:002008-12-10T10:42:00.000-06:00Sometimes it is useful NOT to be named after anyon...Sometimes it is useful NOT to be named after anyone. To avoid family battles, my mother gave me a name no one in either family had. In fact, I've rarely met anyone with my name. And that gave me a freedom I cherish--because no one quite knew what expectations to have for me. I got to be ME.April_optimisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04264149241673287909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-79312119656725925522008-12-10T10:11:00.000-06:002008-12-10T10:11:00.000-06:00"so the simplest way to control destiny really is ..."so the simplest way to control destiny really is to have a child and to name the little peanut after someone you totally admire and respect"<BR/><BR/>In other words, if a little peanut named "Kid Rock" saunters into your sanctum, you need to be a might bit wary....Tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16310224569736431703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-86349798115840239482008-12-10T10:04:00.000-06:002008-12-10T10:04:00.000-06:00Control is a funny thing. Or should I say trying t...Control is a funny thing. Or should I say trying to adopt the proper balance of understanding what you can and cannot control.Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-86854686547540815822008-12-10T08:29:00.000-06:002008-12-10T08:29:00.000-06:00I come from the world's most dysfunctional family....I come from the world's most dysfunctional family. Okay, there's a lot of competition for that, so maybe it isn't the worst. However, I do really believe that I have done better with my kids BECAUSE of that. I knew everything I wanted to do differently and my husband and I are doing it. My kids will have all new dysfunctional issues - none of those old ones I had - but it's got to be better. :-)<BR/><BR/>Love this post!blognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-33530166939460003542008-12-10T07:51:00.000-06:002008-12-10T07:51:00.000-06:00I'm glad to know that therapists believe dysfuncti...I'm glad to know that therapists believe dysfunction can be changed!<BR/><BR/>I'm a little disturbed that therapists go to movies to find out how actor therapists do it!Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09496172669599418214noreply@blogger.com