tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post5602684073620414554..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: Mr P and Vitamin Vtherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-49087887419926255112010-02-25T11:06:59.097-06:002010-02-25T11:06:59.097-06:00My BFF vainly dated guys for a decade, no connecti...My BFF vainly dated guys for a decade, no connection, no intimacy. Finally she accepted that she was not going to live like the person that her culture expected, her religion accepted. Instead she would be herself.<br />She and her female partner have been together 15 years. I joined them on one of their early dates, and the connection they had was electric. I thought, WOW, these two really LIKE each other!<br /><br />This is what I mean, if you are dating the wrong gender it's going to be difficult or impossible to engage in intimate activities.Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-50743161761864180682010-02-24T15:51:31.431-06:002010-02-24T15:51:31.431-06:00He's dating the wromg women.
Maybe that sou...He's dating the wromg women. <br /><br />Maybe that sounds flippant and maybe he doesn't care about a long term relationship but....it seems to me that if you want someone ready for a long term relationship then you want someone secure enough not to need the guy to try something right away. And you want someone who sees beyond the superficial to the person beneath. <br /><br />Or maybe I'm old enough to be totally out of sync with how things are now...April_optimisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04264149241673287909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-52993623658665420432010-02-19T22:55:22.793-06:002010-02-19T22:55:22.793-06:00Sadly, the owner of Mr P doesn't understand th...Sadly, the owner of Mr P doesn't understand that there are so, so many things that can be problematic in a sexual relationship that a little "vitamin" won't fix. If you're looking for a healthy relationship you're going to have to be able to carry the relationship on your own merit, with or without Mr P.<br /><br />For real. Just one thing to think about- after a woman has a baby, she's medically advised to wait FOUR TO SIX WEEKS to have sex. How are you going to impress her then? I'll tell you how. You take the baby at 2am and let her get 20 minutes sleep. The character and strength it takes to do THAT can't be bought on the third date.<br /><br />Sign me,<br />happily married 30-somethingAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03381554731510359760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-17683565991369421312010-02-19T11:55:50.635-06:002010-02-19T11:55:50.635-06:00Isle Dance's prose hits it to the core.Isle Dance's prose hits it to the core.Jew Wisheshttp://www.jewwishes.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-15570139694766396502010-02-18T23:41:31.614-06:002010-02-18T23:41:31.614-06:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.daniel johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02542612372929827946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-28674959602541324922010-02-18T19:57:47.569-06:002010-02-18T19:57:47.569-06:00Lisa, maybe totally weird for me to respond to you...Lisa, maybe totally weird for me to respond to you but DID is one of the diagnoses I carry and I've been referred around plenty. It hurts but I'm now so so glad that my last therapist stopped seeing me. I never would have been able to say- this isn't working. She did me a huge favor. The whole ominous high-level-of-care thing was being talked about but I've done really well since the referral.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-88976680531160086992010-02-18T19:40:38.188-06:002010-02-18T19:40:38.188-06:00this is totally off subject, but I'm not sure ...this is totally off subject, but I'm not sure where else to ask this question? How do you know when it's time to refer a client elsewhere? I've been working with a DID client for two years. Over the last 6 months she has regressed, and can't seem to rally back. She has therapy with me twice weekly, and still needs extra phone calls in between. My verdict is that she's just not capable of taking care of herself and needs a group home or some higher level of care. She's always been in some sort of placement unless she's been on the street. I'm exhausted but don't want to abandon her.Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-42481411854473666052010-02-18T06:59:39.849-06:002010-02-18T06:59:39.849-06:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-69038348167796166422010-02-18T01:17:43.446-06:002010-02-18T01:17:43.446-06:00So much good stuff on this thread...
@Isle Dance ...So much good stuff on this thread...<br /><br />@Isle Dance - you hit the nail squarely on the head...I couldn't have said it better - bravo!<br /><br />@Ivory...I've always been a football fan...what exactly is 1st base? There's 1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base, and let's say home-run (which in my book would be be sexual intercourse)<br /><br />@Ella -read Anon (Kel) February 12, 2010 6:12 PM<br />"The first time we attempted to have sex, it didn't happen...mostly due to his nerves."<br />It's called performance anxiety.<br />In regards to your posts...hey, you know what Ella, you aren't worth the time to delineate and elucidate your inverse crainorectomyDr. Ruthnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-55165332958323184222010-02-18T01:06:54.147-06:002010-02-18T01:06:54.147-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Isle Dancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04755103029114698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-375640606824573412010-02-17T22:20:01.033-06:002010-02-17T22:20:01.033-06:00I'll get back to everyone next week, sorry.
W...I'll get back to everyone next week, sorry.<br /><br />Will explain then.<br /><br />Thinking of you,<br /><br />therapydoctherapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-89431417463339331152010-02-17T22:17:46.265-06:002010-02-17T22:17:46.265-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64058010897135699532010-02-17T21:07:01.352-06:002010-02-17T21:07:01.352-06:00OT: Do you ever blog about work issues? I couldn&...OT: Do you ever blog about work issues? I couldn't find anything. You know, having to deal closely with really sick and/or toxic people and still trying so hard to retain some shred of self-esteem. It's a bad time to find another job, plus I'm 58, which is considered ancient and unhireable in today's market. It's so easy to say "don't worry about it" or "just let it go," but it isn't that easy in real life when you have to be face to face with toxic people. It would be great to quit and go do "what you love," but I have to pay bills and the mortgage company doesn't take "love."belovedparrothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15821854533670618073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-86948811056130219122010-02-16T14:47:25.437-06:002010-02-16T14:47:25.437-06:00I have been married quite a number of years, but I...I have been married quite a number of years, but I do think that taking things slowly and getting to know the person first is a better idea than having sex immediately. The buildup seems intriguing and interesting and that even happens to us who have been married. We aren't ever too old for romance. That seems to have been replaced these days with just sex.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-10894318296488469732010-02-16T06:23:24.585-06:002010-02-16T06:23:24.585-06:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Mital Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08359018504570944262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-76243527572474728682010-02-16T04:16:02.781-06:002010-02-16T04:16:02.781-06:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64024518945562147482010-02-15T17:25:38.131-06:002010-02-15T17:25:38.131-06:00Jack, would be happy to hear more of your thoughts...Jack, would be happy to hear more of your thoughts on this.<br />Should it be limited to just single straight guys? Tell me about your friend Jimmy, what is he looking for when he's out at a club, knocked back a few shots? TD says it's about communication, is that what he's after?<br /><br />Someone please prove my theory wrong!Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64095975805737303772010-02-15T09:05:15.112-06:002010-02-15T09:05:15.112-06:00Straight guys all seem to be led around in life by...<i>Straight guys all seem to be led around in life by their libidos, trying to get laid or at least leaving that impression. </i><br /><br /><br />I don't know how much truth there is in that.Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-73445424004120021012010-02-14T11:26:02.677-06:002010-02-14T11:26:02.677-06:00@ Isle Dance - wow, well said!!! And maybe it'...@ Isle Dance - wow, well said!!! And maybe it's not a girl after all, maybe it's a guy.Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-60443652830964499842010-02-14T02:33:56.072-06:002010-02-14T02:33:56.072-06:00This is the body
telling the brain
that this is th...This is the body<br />telling the brain<br />that this is the wrong time<br />and/or the wrong person.<br />That this is the time<br />to instead LISTEN,<br />not take drugs...!<br />And learn. And grow. And evolve.<br />Without the sex.<br />Wait...for goodness sakes!<br />Protect yourself.<br />So you can someday<br />protect the right girl.Isle Dancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04755103029114698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-76683037278474256282010-02-13T14:41:39.121-06:002010-02-13T14:41:39.121-06:00I really have a hard time accepting that a 20 or 3...I really have a hard time accepting that a 20 or 30-something single guy needs Viagra to get an erection with a girl he really likes (not withstanding some other physical/mental health concern - too much internet porn, perhaps?). <br /><br />Straight guys all seem to be led around in life by their libidos, trying to get laid or at least leaving that impression. SO, I have always felt pressured by Mr P's insistence on getting what he wants. Even after 10 yr of marriage.<br /><br />So, that there is ONE guy who is feeling dominated by, intimidated by, the voracious sexual needs of women....well, it's about time the table was turned in one case.<br /><br />Is this why we have fantasies about our therapists, because they listen to us, let us talk, we communicate and work out the ruptures, we set aside a special time for each other every week -- romantic and sexual fantasies even though we NEVER touch, beyond a handshake?Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-10402019217360381702010-02-13T09:08:27.127-06:002010-02-13T09:08:27.127-06:00Well, I agree with the part about actions speak lo...Well, I agree with the part about actions speak louder than words. But the act of sex alone does nothing to convince me that someone cares about me. It is all of the other things that matter, to me. Phone calls, emails, neck rubs, smiles, laughter. I have to be connected emotionally long before I want to connect sexually. <br /><br />But, I'm old.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09072868519236902423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-69178860340514666152010-02-13T03:25:58.512-06:002010-02-13T03:25:58.512-06:00Amiable fill someone in on and this enter helped m...Amiable fill someone in on and this enter helped me alot in my college assignement. Thank you for your information.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-33330703143459368302010-02-12T18:12:04.696-06:002010-02-12T18:12:04.696-06:00I have a man that I am deeply in love with, have b...I have a man that I am deeply in love with, have been for almost eight years now and we have a 3.5 year old son. <br /><br />The first time we attempted to have sex, it didn't happen...mostly due to his nerves. Guess what? It didn't matter to me...<br /><br />KelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-13855704344505812842010-02-12T15:43:01.321-06:002010-02-12T15:43:01.321-06:00Oy.Oy.blognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.com