tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post5800996802188440524..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: Independent to a Faulttherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-87170099345418703432012-05-23T18:56:22.497-05:002012-05-23T18:56:22.497-05:00wonderful post.....thank you
http://pocketshrink....wonderful post.....thank you<br /><br />http://pocketshrink.blogspot.comLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11830164099906188153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-60510907682691105832012-05-11T06:41:43.851-05:002012-05-11T06:41:43.851-05:00Wow, you've just nailed my upbringing and faul...Wow, you've just nailed my upbringing and faulty thinking in a nutshell. Thanks, I think. ;SKerrohttp://www.kerroskorner.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-30172932343500866292012-05-06T12:45:25.453-05:002012-05-06T12:45:25.453-05:00This is totally me. It's kind of exhausting wi...This is totally me. It's kind of exhausting with little payout. Good thing I'm in therapy. :)Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-7787139099689872122012-05-06T09:39:16.312-05:002012-05-06T09:39:16.312-05:00OH. This one hits too close to home for comfort. T...OH. This one hits too close to home for comfort. There's another side of being the "too independent helper", too. Feeling as tho' you must suck up the extreme loneliness (and never ever show it; it would be socially unacceptable). And not being able to SEE what's wrong, yourself, is an embarrassment - shameful - because we're too close to all the emotions to see how those behavior patterns reinforce themselves. And it's just not our fate to have that nurturing, mirroring or marking, that others have. Some warped destiny... it's just not to be.<br /><br />OUCH. (But yeah - I'm used to getting over it.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-38619121325461328622012-05-04T07:55:37.842-05:002012-05-04T07:55:37.842-05:00Thanks Jenny, and kg, I KNOW. It's so embarra...Thanks Jenny, and kg, I KNOW. It's so embarrassing.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-9074013091703180692012-05-03T23:10:27.075-05:002012-05-03T23:10:27.075-05:00Oh, and I would feel so bad about bothering those ...Oh, and I would feel so bad about bothering those other nice people playing tennis.....I'd rather crawl into a hole than bother them both by my ball ending up in their way, and then needing to retrieve it!<br />Yes, I have it bad!<br />This is something I work on daily.<br />I can fake it, but inside.....not anywhere near there.kghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11152719516197876921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-55160676160937484032012-05-03T13:32:55.943-05:002012-05-03T13:32:55.943-05:00My therapist and I were just talking this morning ...My therapist and I were just talking this morning about asking for and accepting help. This is a spot on description of me (and half my family). It's actually a little scary just how spot on it is. And all the stuff about denying others the pleasure of giving is what I've told others in my family for years. I'm realizing now that I need to my own (and your!) advice.<br /><br />Thanks for a thought-provoking post.Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-18288000719418490412012-05-03T10:50:26.865-05:002012-05-03T10:50:26.865-05:00You're in good company.You're in good company.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-65458577173839348282012-05-03T10:23:49.658-05:002012-05-03T10:23:49.658-05:00Oh my, I am married to that person. Very, very ha...Oh my, I am married to that person. Very, very hard.lisaknoreply@blogger.com