tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post6766035342047285264..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: The Dishwasher, Marriage, and Obsessive Compulsive Disordertherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-75375796680594698972010-09-23T22:27:31.721-05:002010-09-23T22:27:31.721-05:00Haha, hand washing dishes - in a tub with used wat...Haha, hand washing dishes - in a tub with used water anyway - is something I can't do. And forget about sponges. If it is to be done, any cleaning usually requires steeling myself with thoughts of a shower immediately after. Rubber gloves help, though there will be hand scrubbing.<br /><br />I don't get it, am I the only germophobe who prefers personal cleanliness to environmental cleanliness? And does disgust even qualify as an obsession when you don't think anything actually bad will result?ENnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-29326636254695862462010-08-25T23:58:55.245-05:002010-08-25T23:58:55.245-05:00My readers are way funnier than me. Thanks all fo...My readers are way funnier than me. Thanks all for the insight. Things aren't any better around here, but nobody cares.therapydocnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-65121473342469527502010-08-17T12:39:10.063-05:002010-08-17T12:39:10.063-05:00I love Donna's comments about some of the many...I love Donna's comments about some of the many potential kitchen clean up challenges. BTW, microwaving a dampened sponge or cloth is proven to kill 99% of ecoli and other bad bugs. Just give it a minute or two at full power and it's sanitized. This is much better than giving it a ride in the dishwasher (with the tea bags?? Hilarious!)<br /><br />I'm not sure where you're going with using the DW for a drying rack. You told your husband that they're "dirty" but they're not. I like to hand wash dishes as well but I compromise by thoroughly rinsing items because they'll have to sit for a couple days til I get a full load. I can hand wash stuff that is delicate, doesn't really fit in the dishwasher as well as my reusable water bottles, etc.<br /><br />I'm with your mother-in-law; there's ALWAYS stuff to wash and wipe up. Time for a break! Why not?Michal Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17680002305753968190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-80933743340590167512010-08-17T12:38:46.034-05:002010-08-17T12:38:46.034-05:00I love Donna's comments about some of the many...I love Donna's comments about some of the many potential kitchen clean up challenges. BTW, microwaving a dampened sponge or cloth is proven to kill 99% of ecoli and other bad bugs. Just give it a minute or two at full power and it's sanitized. This is much better than giving it a ride in the dishwasher (with the tea bags?? Hilarious!)<br /><br />I'm not sure where you're going with using the DW for a drying rack. You told your husband that they're "dirty" but they're not. I like to hand wash dishes as well but I compromise by thoroughly rinsing items because they'll have to sit for a couple days til I get a full load. I can hand wash stuff that is delicate, doesn't really fit in the dishwasher as well as my reusable water bottles, etc.<br /><br />I'm with your mother-in-law; there's ALWAYS stuff to wash and wipe up. Time for a break! Why not?Michal Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17680002305753968190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-79657829631310996042010-08-16T15:21:34.490-05:002010-08-16T15:21:34.490-05:00Something you haven't touched on much here, bu...Something you haven't touched on much here, but our community's been struggling with it in the last couple months. <br /><br /><a href="http://midianitemanna.blogspot.com/2010/08/yes-virginia-moms-do-kill-themselves.html" rel="nofollow">Yes, Virginia, moms do kill themselves</a>Tzipporahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08807511259582331073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-3788606363264108942010-08-13T02:25:21.890-05:002010-08-13T02:25:21.890-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11209094025497694148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-28980697039215804442010-08-11T20:36:18.145-05:002010-08-11T20:36:18.145-05:00My brother was surprised that I wash sponges in th...My brother was surprised that I wash sponges in the dishwasher. So when he was staying with me for an extended period, and was very sweetly cleaning up the kitchen, he came to me with a used tea bag and said he wasn't trying to be facetious but did I wash tea bags. I thought that was terribly funny. But I could see why he wasn't sure, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-6506692894893017782010-08-11T20:24:10.710-05:002010-08-11T20:24:10.710-05:00Dishwashers drive me crazy. There, I said it. It f...Dishwashers drive me crazy. There, I said it. It feels wrong to run it unless it's full, but we can't really get it full because we use more items that need to go in the top rack than in the bottom.<br /><br />On top of that, there are items that can't or shouldn't go in the dishwasher at all. Or, at least I think there are.<br /><br />So many things for a married couple to disagree about concerning the dishwasher.<br /><br />And then there are my visits to my daughters' houses and trying to learn their (and their spouses') rules about what goes in the dishwasher and where.<br /><br />Throw in some baby/toddler items, an expensive knife or pots and pans, a concern for the environment or toxins, and the entire kitchen clean-up is rife with possibilities for grief and conflict.<br /><br />Suggestion for next topic: how to handle leftovers and how to determine if they are safe to eat.Donna B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16771075314473811594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-54088652548817323272010-08-11T16:13:15.331-05:002010-08-11T16:13:15.331-05:00Clean/Dirty magnet. Easy as pie. And cheap.Clean/Dirty magnet. Easy as pie. And cheap.Tzipporahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08807511259582331073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-57015947852204640562010-08-11T09:34:47.761-05:002010-08-11T09:34:47.761-05:00My husband doesn't like the way I arrange the ...My husband doesn't like the way I arrange the dishwasher and takes things OUT that I have put IN. Drives me crazy. No reason for it except for his OCD.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-16868207389933209412010-08-10T17:27:05.105-05:002010-08-10T17:27:05.105-05:00One of the things I thought about when I read this...One of the things I thought about when I read this was that just recently I'd seen an article that stated that pre-washing is not necessary and that in fact, the current brands of automatic dishwashing soaps are designed to work when there is the presence of food. In the absence of food particles, apparently the detergent munches on the plates themselves, causing them to become pitted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-15854928942082109582010-08-10T13:55:15.922-05:002010-08-10T13:55:15.922-05:00I can relate a little all of this. Or a lot. &qu...I can relate a little all of this. Or a lot. "Contaminates" is a word in my head. I like things clean, but I tire of doing it over and over. It's just easier to not get things so dirty in the first place. Or to do it in a way that keeps some kind of order to it all. I know I need to work on this. Gah.Isle Dancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04755103029114698264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-55983235156927195522010-08-10T11:25:55.178-05:002010-08-10T11:25:55.178-05:00For DSM-V:
Dishwasher Dysphoric Disorder
Dishwash...For DSM-V:<br /><br />Dishwasher Dysphoric Disorder<br />Dishwasher Derrangement Disordermoviedochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03617061594621924756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-1048904026510144822010-08-10T04:28:16.147-05:002010-08-10T04:28:16.147-05:00This is really helpful; thank you very much. I esp...This is really helpful; thank you very much. I especially like the beginning segments, about what is and is not OCD, and what does and does not require treatment.The Rebbetzin's Husbandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14977193945074906534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-3654883154404746092010-08-10T02:36:47.990-05:002010-08-10T02:36:47.990-05:00I'm reminded of the time I got anxious because...I'm reminded of the time I got anxious because my therapist tied her hair with a rubber band. The kind that goes around mail. Seriously. How could she? All those broken hairs nearly did me in. I nearly bought her proper hair elastics, but I resisted.<br /><br />As for the syrup... I'm already running from the room... aaarrrggghhh!!!Kerrohttp://www.kerroskorner.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-83033502421620367462010-08-09T23:42:29.032-05:002010-08-09T23:42:29.032-05:00Two suggestions: A dish drainer for the counter an...Two suggestions: A dish drainer for the counter and/or one of those clean/dirty magnets for the dishwasher.ladykayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13252553104074841081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-62892974218410925512010-08-09T22:01:42.904-05:002010-08-09T22:01:42.904-05:00The pitcher of grape juice on the edge of the desk...The pitcher of grape juice on the edge of the desk would drive me completely bonkers. I wouldn't even ASK you to move it. I would get up from my seat and do it myself.<br /><br />That doesn't make me OCD. It makes me a mom of three little kids.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />SandySandy @ The Scoop on Balancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382966038522662787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-37516629495029168972010-08-09T20:55:59.692-05:002010-08-09T20:55:59.692-05:00A dishwasher by name is for washing. If something ...A dishwasher by name is for washing. If something needs soaking first, we put it in soak and then in with the other dirty dishes in the washer. It works for us without any fuss. I guess we aren't OCD. Yea!!Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-23028941049852439232010-08-09T19:58:48.541-05:002010-08-09T19:58:48.541-05:00My husband does the same thing, washes the dishes ...My husband does the same thing, washes the dishes and uses the dishwasher as a dryer. I have suggested we get a counter dish dryer so he can enjoy himself and he says no, that's just clutter. I'm with FD on this one, sometimes it's hard to tell what is "dirty." And dishwashers are for dirty dishes, not clean ones, after all.<br /><br />I have to say, nothing personal about you, this is an annoying habit. And my husband doesn't like the way I load the dishwasher. But he gets annoyed when he finds a load of dirty dishes in the sink and keeps trying to "instruct" me.<br /><br />I am in a no win situation with the dishes here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-8264399274138340162010-08-09T12:05:28.476-05:002010-08-09T12:05:28.476-05:00If you like the warm and the soap, I'd put the...If you like the warm and the soap, I'd put the dirty dishes in the dishwasher and then take a shower..<br />You'd be saving time and water and still getting all of the benefits!!Brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12507408195661041152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-48997996708149585342010-08-09T11:44:22.149-05:002010-08-09T11:44:22.149-05:00For us, the arrangement of the dishes in the racks...For us, the arrangement of the dishes in the racks IS about control. My way is right, his way is right. I have to give up my way being right if I want him to do this chore.<br /><br />But he's also a bit OCD. And I know not to mess with that - did it while we were dating, moved the salt and pepper and sugar dish around on the restaurant table, moved them from the spot where they must be. He moved it back. I moved it away. He moved it back. He threatened me with bodily harm if I moved it again. I walked out the door, walked back to my office down the road.<br />We each learned about the boundaries that day.Ellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-921084650408670082010-08-09T09:09:43.765-05:002010-08-09T09:09:43.765-05:00There's also the wasted water. I fill a gallon...There's also the wasted water. I fill a gallon jug (in the summer) and still let water go down the drain just so it will get hot enough to do the hand washing. If I'm going to run the dishwasher anyway, I let it start first to get to the hot water. (I use the jug full to water plants in the yard.) Using the dishwasher as a drying rack only may save water, but I suspect dishwashers waste less water than washing by hand, not to mention your valuable time.<br /><br />The Treatment: Is what you describe desensitization or exposure and response prevention?moviedochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03617061594621924756noreply@blogger.com