tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post8205115476091491554..comments2024-03-14T03:16:23.482-05:00Comments on Everyone Needs Therapy: The Deception Detectortherapydochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-89373423731600419242008-10-22T18:46:00.000-05:002008-10-22T18:46:00.000-05:00Anytime.Anytime.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-37935679694511767422008-10-21T08:16:00.000-05:002008-10-21T08:16:00.000-05:00Hi TD uh,makeup=lie/deception =OK , so whut !uh- i...Hi TD <BR/>uh,makeup=lie/deception =OK , so whut !<BR/>uh- i didnt say anyone was forcing me to do nuttin, duh.<BR/><BR/> makeup doesnt bother me at all but, in fact , i think that its good ,sorta' that people with such insecurity show 'that' by wearing the makeup, this way it is less difficult to understand that persons insecurities. And also , of course there could be circumstances where the application of some deception is reasonable .<BR/><BR/>why would anyone enjoy makeup? it doesnt taste smell or feel like a womans real self . give me your address and I'll make you a lipstick flavored lollipop. You want waxxy , chalky , or oily flavored? Also, I cant help but think that using makeup as a habit could have sort of a reinforcing effect re; those insecurities that encouraged the makeup to start with . Also The money spent on makeup could feed countless third world children .<BR/>Also , do they still use animals for testing all the toxic makeups .<BR/>I know , I'm being narcissistic again huh!<BR/><BR/>I dont think i said that there werent acceptable persons , its that there really arent very many persons whatsoever , and those that there are are like me , they are slaves and after slaving away all day virtually every day , theres little time or energy for socialising .<BR/><BR/>as for moving to urbanity , how dare you wish such a thing upon another human .<BR/><BR/>MIT? Harvard ?- will they accept a homemade GED ?<BR/>asserting my self percieved superiority ? yes , thats exactly not it !<BR/><BR/>I think narcissism is ugly . Assumptuousness and simplicty is ugly too, I think!<BR/><BR/>thanks for your concern though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-73399962130053292142008-09-26T02:03:00.000-05:002008-09-26T02:03:00.000-05:00Anonymous,You suggest that use of make-up by women...Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>You suggest that use of make-up by women equates to a lie/deception". But there are women who do not use make-up at all, thus, noone is forcing you to gravitate towards those who do? Which makes me wonder, why does it bother you so much ? If you don't like "made-up" women - great, it's your preference. Someone else enjoys it. There are roughly 8 billion people in the world, there is someone for everyone. <BR/>You complain that in your rural area, there are no people intelligent and sophisticated enough (or -whatever-enough) to be granted the honor of your friendship. Okay. Why don't you move to an urban area and join Mensa? Do research at MIT ? Lecture at Harvard ? <BR/>The opportunities are endless, especially for someone like you.<BR/>Or could it be that you prefer to constantly complain about everyone's inferiority, which is so far behind your development?<BR/><BR/>Is the real goal - to assert your self-perceived superiority?<BR/><BR/>What are your thoughts on Narcissisistic Personlity Disorder, by the way?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64512802063682775332008-03-28T23:25:00.000-05:002008-03-28T23:25:00.000-05:00The very best (worst?) liars (addicts among them, ...The very best (worst?) liars (addicts among them, of course) believe their own lies, and can very convincingly tell you that they learned their lesson and describe how they worked things out in their lives with increasing honesty since.<BR/><BR/>I don't think it's possible to recognize deception in another if one hasn't done the necessary work on oneself.Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-76021470115374120892008-03-28T07:27:00.000-05:002008-03-28T07:27:00.000-05:00Thank you so much. You're The Liar has to be my n...Thank you so much. You're The Liar has to be my next post. Gimme time to think about it. I think it's about you busting you.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-44110393112010618502008-03-27T23:33:00.000-05:002008-03-27T23:33:00.000-05:00Don't know if you'll read this comment, but, what ...Don't know if you'll read this comment, but, what if you're the liar? And you are afraid and you know it - afraid of rejection and disintegration of self and relationships and yes, emotional abuse? How do you become "honest"? Especially if it's probably THE MOST complained about issue in your marriage?SShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14757423096055614154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-63130060038779366812008-03-27T13:37:00.000-05:002008-03-27T13:37:00.000-05:00Oy vey.Anyone got a cigarette?LOL.(No, I don't smo...Oy vey.<BR/><BR/>Anyone got a cigarette?<BR/><BR/>LOL.<BR/><BR/>(No, I don't smoke)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-45103743781662232942008-03-27T11:45:00.000-05:002008-03-27T11:45:00.000-05:00Nah, I'm fine, thanks, but am going to have to wor...Nah, I'm fine, thanks, but am going to have to work now :)therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-31527016724828587342008-03-27T11:30:00.000-05:002008-03-27T11:30:00.000-05:00Well, no , i hadnt read it , but i just did and I ...Well, no , i hadnt read it , but i just did and I have had to change my diagnosis. You are now beyond ,cranky irritability. You have got the <BR/>BLUES !<BR/>Cheer up ! And dont read the rest of that book.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-83533885305529286532008-03-27T10:33:00.000-05:002008-03-27T10:33:00.000-05:00HA! You read the next post!HA! You read the next post!therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-42363512162789578912008-03-27T10:27:00.000-05:002008-03-27T10:27:00.000-05:00Isnt ice what created your pain ? Well, I hope you...Isnt ice what created your pain ?<BR/> Well, I hope you start feeling better. cuz, it seems like you might be getting cranky , and irritable , a little bit .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-85532725499039251962008-03-27T10:07:00.000-05:002008-03-27T10:07:00.000-05:00Shoulder hurts. I'm icing it, thanks.Shoulder hurts. I'm icing it, thanks.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-26842449386263555892008-03-27T09:18:00.000-05:002008-03-27T09:18:00.000-05:00Isnt all human behavior aimed at fullfilling an u...Isnt all human behavior aimed at fullfilling an unfullfilled need ? What does the addict need ?<BR/>Why assume that the person using drugs isnt straight , isnt <BR/>honest ? Why assume that doing something that is against the law is bad ?<BR/><BR/> Does one have to intend to get stoned to be using drugs ? I think many ppl become addicted to drugs in their attempts to self<BR/> medicate . I can understand this cuz i have no access to competant medical assistance of any kind , and neither do most of the ppl i know . <BR/><BR/>From what i read , its suggested that 40% of americans must (for lack of Insurance and financial resources) self medicate or abstain from from being medicated . <BR/><BR/>Making self medication a bad thing is societies' management classes' way of telling the lower class that "we the upper classes arent gonna help you , and furthermore , trying to help yourself is gonna land you in one of our big beautiful <BR/>prisons ".<BR/><BR/>Of course , 'addiction on a personal level' is bad , but our collective social depravaties which create an environment condusive to rampant addictions is a far worse problem . <BR/><BR/>Seems like the real tragedy is that reality is sooo bad that many people would rather not deal with it , would rather be stoned .<BR/><BR/>Personally, I'm with huey lewis , I want a new drug , one that dont make me sick , one that dont make my face break out , one that wont make me go broke ..... or something like that .. Soma maybe ?<BR/>And how are ya this fine spring morning ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-11581539093159488822008-03-27T08:20:00.000-05:002008-03-27T08:20:00.000-05:00Isnt all human behavior aimed at fullfilling an u...Isnt all human behavior aimed at fullfilling an unfullfilled need ? What does the addict need ?<BR/><BR/>Why assume that the person using drugs isnt straight , isnt <BR/>honest ? Why assume that doing something that is against the law is bad ? <BR/><BR/>Does one have to intend to get stoned to be using drugs ? <BR/>I think many ppl become addicted to drugs in their attempts to self medicate . I can understand this cuz i have no access to competant medical assistance of any kind , and neither do most of the ppl i know . <BR/><BR/>From what i read , its suggested that 40% of americans must (for lack of Insurance and financial resources) self medicate or abstain from from being medicated . <BR/><BR/>Making self medicating a bad thing is societies' management classes' way of telling the lower class that "we the upper classes arent gonna help you , and furthermore , trying to help yourself is gonna land you in one of our big beautiful prisons ".<BR/><BR/>Of course , 'addiction on a personal level' is bad , but our collective social depravaties which create an environment condusive to rampant addictions is a far worse problem . <BR/><BR/>Seems like the real tragedy is that reality is sooo bad that many people would rather not deal with it , would rather be stoned .<BR/>Personally, I'm with huey lewis , I want a new drug , one that dont make me sick , one that dont make my face break out , one that wont make me go broke ..... or something like that .. Soma maybe ?<BR/>And how are ya this fine spring morning ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-89396404262964265052008-03-27T07:37:00.000-05:002008-03-27T07:37:00.000-05:00The lie is, I'm straight/honest (it's a crime, usi...The lie is, <EM>I'm straight/honest (it's a crime, using illicit drugs)</EM> to the boss, the wife, the kids, the parents, when in reality, <EM>I'm stoned</EM>.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64752894818949241812008-03-27T07:21:00.000-05:002008-03-27T07:21:00.000-05:00Why do you have to lie to use illicit drugs ?ADDIC...Why do you have to lie to use illicit drugs ?<BR/>ADDICT TO DRUG DEALER ; "sell me drugs please".<BR/>Drug dealer obliges addict - addict takes drugs .<BR/>Where is the lie ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-3599040685919968102008-03-27T06:07:00.000-05:002008-03-27T06:07:00.000-05:00Oh, thanks. You bring up a relationship between ad...Oh, thanks. You bring up a relationship between addiction and deception that if we haven't talked about, should. <BR/><BR/>You have to lie to use illicit drugs, of course.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-442532080689692362008-03-27T00:48:00.000-05:002008-03-27T00:48:00.000-05:00I married a man who is so good at lying that he be...I married a man who is so good at lying that he believes them himself. I think because of his own belief in his "truths" it is much easier for people around him to believe them also. These people include judges, therapists (at least 3), lawyers, and law guardians, but his own son sees through him, thank G-d for that.<BR/><BR/>btw-the ex is an addict and a master of manipulation which could also explain why the above people believe him.<BR/><BR/>I so appreciate this post and will most definitely use it when I date. I don't want to make the same mistake.come runninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00264472908368786844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-34571582317032560682008-03-26T13:06:00.000-05:002008-03-26T13:06:00.000-05:00Ahh, very interesting! To lie is to succumb to a f...Ahh, very interesting! To lie is to succumb to a fear, for if we have nothing to fear, we have no reason to lie. This is a simple, yet powerful thought. THanks for writing this.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08237538988856751173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-51969885665602130042008-03-26T08:07:00.000-05:002008-03-26T08:07:00.000-05:00No, no, no, no, no.And no.We'll have to discuss th...No, no, no, no, no.<BR/><BR/>And no.<BR/><BR/>We'll have to discuss this.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-90503899038587308272008-03-26T07:46:00.000-05:002008-03-26T07:46:00.000-05:00Friendship Shmendship . Do people really still do...Friendship Shmendship . Do people really still do that? I dont see <BR/>it . I'm rurally isolated and all I see people-wise are weary wage-slaves, hermits , hustlers , and xenopobhic tv captives, all of the loner variety. <BR/><BR/>Friendship must be an urban or class luxury sort of thing . Seems like most people dont even like themselves , and 'other people' are like dangerous alien creatures from the twilight zone . <BR/><BR/>I havent had a substantive , non-professional , non-internet conversation with another person in many months , maybe years and <BR/>I dont see any way to socialise except for going to church or frequenting a redneck bar . Theocracy , mediocracy , or lonliness?<BR/> Guess i'll just be lonesome !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-28483151031797824422008-03-25T12:56:00.000-05:002008-03-25T12:56:00.000-05:00No doubt. Sharing from both teams. Let's do lunc...No doubt. Sharing from both teams. Let's do lunch? Can't do that with your therapist, and face it, what would you rather do?<BR/>:)<BR/>Thanks, Brad.therapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-21808130794993342352008-03-25T11:34:00.000-05:002008-03-25T11:34:00.000-05:00Therapy is an attitude of observation. Being the f...Therapy is an attitude of observation. <BR/>Being the first-born of two social workers (my dad's Masters was on emotionally disturbed children), my traumas were few and far between. The deception of Santa is spared from my Jewish friends, so how fantasy is fun can be questionable. <BR/>I went to the "Radical Honesty" seminar with Brad Blanton who said the right friendships could better than therapy.brad4dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14880980315149745012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-64322180205328002812008-03-25T08:01:00.000-05:002008-03-25T08:01:00.000-05:00It doesn't matter how you send it, dear. You've f...It doesn't matter how you send it, dear. You've figured out how easy it is to get paid, right?<BR/><BR/>thanks for the chuckletherapydochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088184676439578876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27072566.post-42678869065520882422008-03-25T07:36:00.000-05:002008-03-25T07:36:00.000-05:00Ok- sometimes even the most intelligent ppl need ...Ok- sometimes even the most intelligent ppl need a simpler perspective , and this is one of those times i think , cuz , its obvious that YOU are working too much . <BR/><BR/>You need a new work strategy ,cuz spending your time talking to ppl like me IS NOT productive and pays NOTHING . Im thinking that ,probably , you need better paying clients , so that you can afford to work less.<BR/><BR/> Im thinking that you dont have adequate secretarial help maybe , and so , here is my advice . Go to the nearest HOOTERS , steal 2 of the bustiest waitresses , have them stand outside your office dancing by the street(like the Little caesars workers do) with a sign that says 'CEO SPECIAL OFFER ' GET THERAPY NOW BEFORE THE DEPRESSION BEGINS , BE PREPARED FOR THE NEW BLACK FRIDAY , DONT JUMP , THERAPY DOC CAN SAVE YOU !<BR/><BR/> I would offer a free car wash with the purchase of 5 sessions , and somehow manage to include the word MASSAGE on the sign .<BR/>Do this and you will be rolling in dough and liesure-time in no <BR/>time . Now , how do I send you my bill for this occupational <BR/>therapy ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com