Exceptions and another example of co-dependency
I was talking about people who are chronically dependent, who take much more than they give when they could give and do much more than they do. There is a great difference, of course, between an individual who cannot hold a spoon or a fork, and one who simply has to get high.
(By the way, if you ever feel that I'm exaggerating, because I do, or that I'm wrong, please comment.)
Anyway, all that stuff I say about care-taking does not count if the dependent behavior is acute, perhaps brought on by a severe depression that requires tedious adjustment of meds, or a serious medical illness. The process of GETTING FUNCTIONAL again can take a long time.
My rant is only about people for whom getting functional never seems to happen.
A good example is Selma's kid Rick (not their real names).Get the difference? See why I get emotional?
Rick is 37 and Selma, 57, is still paying his car payment. He's never really held down a full-time job and there's NOTHING physically wrong with him.
Selma knows that Rick smokes pot and hangs around with lowlifes. (Rick's not a lowlife, right??!!)
Selma can't get out much because she's too broke, helping her mom and her boy Rick. She would like to get out, however. She likes to dance.
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