But to be honest, this season had been terrible until tonight. Yet I kept watching.
You know how it is when it seems a television season has really gone down the tubes and you're considering Just Not Watching That Show Anymore, but you do it anyway? It's like we're rats in a maze going for the cocaine.
You might do it too, keep turning on the same disappointingly bad show, hoping for a good one each time. And then, just when we can't hold out any longer for a good plot (or just plot), something to hold our interest they throw us a crumb, a really good show.
Fine. You don't do this? You're a better person. But for the rest of us drones,
You think the networks don't know this, that we'll watch anyway?
It is the essence of conditioning. Why should they have to put out a great show every week when they know we'll be back for more regardless?
What it should mean to young parents is that all you have to do is reward your kid on occasion for being good. If a kid can't predict when he'll get his candy, he'll keep at it (behaving) until he gets it.
Let's take the case of the grocery store.
Say you have an 18 month old. Start your kids really young, by the way, as soon as they're aware of the concept of GIMME. As in, gimme, gimme, gimme, buy me, buy me, buy me.
Surely you have heard that mantra.
You tell the kid:
If the kid is good this first time, he gets the toy. The next time you give the same rap. Emphasize the MAYBE part. Repeat it several times.
When we go into Jewell (Albertson, Walmart, whatev) :
MAYBE if you're good, I'll buy you something.
MAYBE NOT. But you have to be good anyway. If you're bad FOR SURE you won't get anything. Not here, not now, not never.
Probably the kid will be good. But DON'T reward every time. It's okay. Basic trust does not depend upon this.
Oh, sorry honey, I can't get you the toy thisThe next time comes around. The kid is good. You buy the toy.
time. Not enough money. But probably the next time, I will.
Repeat again. And again. Until the kid is about 30. Don't buy just because he's good (like that's gonna' happen every time anyway). Buy to reinforce. Erratically. Shake it up, make it unpredictable.
Like the networks do.
Life isn't fair, okay? Best to learn young.
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