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(1) FD and I try to take a bike trip on our anniversary. The day we met he won a Raleigh 10-speed in a raffle for Native Americans. He still rides it. We keep our bikes inside, no rust, and no home-invader would want them.
Frankly, fixing a bicycle, to me, has always meant filling tires with air, or perhaps grabbing a stick and getting the chain back on. That's as far as it goes, especially because FD is very good at it, and Bob, my bike guy, is a bicycle savant. One night, heading home from the office, my pedal fell off, or was that the derailleur. You can't ride very far without these things, but the bike shop loomed ahead, lucky for me, so I gathered the pieces and walked over.
Bob suggested that I leave it with him, he would work on it that night, have it for me the next day. I whined, "Then how would I get home?"
He agreed. Neither of us even considered the bus or a taxi, and Uber didn't exist. So Bob, who does look like Haight-Ashbury, rewired the whole bicycle for a song. Now, whenever something goes wrong, he's my guy. FD might be jealous, not sure.
Anyway, we're about to launch our annual anniversary trip, only a day trip, no plans to stay anywhere over night. FD has found us new bike paths north of Chicago, trails we've never seen before. Aside from the nuclear reactor a few yards away, and the black sand on the beach, it looks really great. But my bike gears need rewiring and FD is really busy. I am, too.
My only hope, Bob. So I stop in after work. But he's not there. Two of the other guys are lolling around the shop (this place is like a barbershop, honestly). One takes mine for a spin, comes back and pronounces, "It's frozen. The gears,or whatever it is, frozen. No clicks at all."
This I knew.
"So fix it, no?"
"You can't fix that."
"Bob has done it many times. Maybe I need a new whatchamacallit. Can you do that, replace it?"
No, that's an old bike, and finding the whatchamacallit will take time. It so happens that this bike shop is a museum of bikes, and Bob can do this in five minutes, either repair it or replace the shifter. He would have known which bike to pirate it from.
"Where's Bob? Can't you call him?" I ask desperately. "I know he'll come in for me. He made me a bike once (He did). He knows this bike."
Oh, Bob doesn't have a phone. "You can leave the bike if you want. Maybe he'll be in later. Maybe not."
The bike gets me home with those two working gears, but riding 10 miles is going to be a drag. In the morning, the day of the trip, FD is fiddling with his bicycle. He would get to mine, surely, but I take out a screwdriver and a wrench, pry open the clicker. I pull on one thing, tighten another, squirt in a little WD-40, try it out. It works! (A reader tells me that Finish Line is better for bike chains. I'm getting it, asap.)
You would think I have discovered a cure for cancer, maybe one for mental illness, fixing my own bike.
That's how self-esteem works. Too bad it is so easy to undo. That clicker has a short life, too, I imagine.
(2) Funding for mental illness
The US government has cut back on biomedical research, so when two of my sons went into bench science, my hopes for a comfortable retirement based upon their wildly important discoveries flitted away. I have an almost daughter-in-law, also in a bench scientist at Harvard. She toyed with real estate before a fellowship made that a less-than choice. What is with that attraction to selling buildings?
But thankfully, the Broad Institute in Cambridge will receive $650 million, the biggest gift worldwide for psychiatric research ever. Ted Stanley's son Jonathan had a psychotic bipolar episode in college at the age of 18. The Stanleys decided that the best use of Ted's hard earned money is research, finding cures. He made his money marketing and selling collectibles.
Good for the bench scientists, and wonderful news for everyone else, too. Because although we're affected by everything from the air we breathe and our experience coming out of the womb, to the way our parents and everyone else treated us since then, it is biology that holds the real power for the fastest cures.
(3) And in Antisemitism news
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Due to the war in Gaza, at least one mob is breaking down doors to Jewish businesses, ransacking Jewish lives, burning stores to the ground.
Shades of the late 30's, early 40's, Hitler. Skin-heads. In Berlin the call for an end to it goes unnoticed. Politicians try, but the taste of violence is irresistible.
In my own neighborhood, Chicago, Illinois, death threats: We know where you live.
No, we don't have the right to be happy, not when people are dying, when stores are burning, people dying. Palestinians need to get out of their homes, let the Israelis find the tunnels, the rockets, disarm them, stop being human shields. It should be a war of words.
Easy for us to say. But if Canadians tunneled into Minnesota armed with grenades and explosives, ready to blow up the mall, taking down hundreds of Americans in one blow, Americans would stop them. This is insanity, waiting for terrorism in Israel. So the innocents die, convinced they will go to Heaven. My guess is that they will.
There was a pro-Israeli rally in downtown Chicago today. My colleague, the woman who shares a suite with me, asked if I would go with her. She'll drive.
Someone guilts her into going, she guilts me. Despite FD's warnings to consider other ways to show support (worried), it seems like the right thing to do. It is too hard watching the war online. Even Palestinians want an end to Hamas terrorists yet some lie down and die for them.
At the rally, about fifty Palestinians, held back by police, shouted at Jews waving flags. We made eye contact, although I kept walking, didn't stop. But I could see that these people were not violent, they had fears, concerns, likely relatives back home under fire. They pleaded, expressed their feelings, needed, it seemed, understanding. I didn't take a picture of them. I felt it an invasion of their privacy. Wouldn't it be something if we took 5 of them at random, and 5 Jews, and sat down for a conversation?
The rally was over in 30 minutes. As my ride told me, "We Jews aren't going to miss lunch."
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