You all know that I love the Cubs, a team that tends to lose, and that I overcame a certain trauma by merely going to a Sox game. Sports builds confidence when we play it-- when we play with good sportsmanship and camaraderie. Or it should.
Someone told me the story of a new boy in my neighborhood. He was outside playing catch with his brother. A younger child watched from afar as the two played a fairly simple game. The younger one seemed entranced, but shy. He was different, special, and most of the neighbors knew this. Affable, lovable, he was still excluded usually from play.
The new kids had a sense of this and didn't especially want to invite him to play. But they did, and they took the time to teach him the rules, too, even though it slowed down the game, made the game somewhat less enjoyable, as sport.
As a human experience, we could say, the stature of play, the purpose of the game, because they include a peer rejected child, exploded. The experience overall, for everyone's self-esteem, improved exponentially.
Historically, sports are exclusive. It is all about the best players, the best teams, the best, the best, the best, and it is difficult, surely, to somehow not feel deserving and privileged, just being on a team, being a part of a winning team, especially, whether it is high school varsity sports, college ball, or professional athletics.
Culturally, too, sports have been tainted with racism and sexism, as ecosystems can be, it seems, until shaken down, forced to change. In football it took a Jerry Sandusky to shake it down, to rattle the culture, scream out, change.
Sandusky, a man who systematically sexually assaulted, oh let's use the word, raped little boys under the watch of a most powerful institution, Penn State, funded by an even more powerful institution, the NCAA, and an icon, a virtual demi-god, Joe Paterno, a winning coach.
President of the NCAA, Mark Emmert, says it best:
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Wednesday, July 25, 2012
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Did NCAA make a commitment to using the sanction money to help child victims...or is it unrestricted? In your post you begin by addressing how sports build confidence. Perhaps the NCAA can utilize the fund to help assaulted children thtough sport to restore that which is stolen from them -- confidence, esteem and a sense of worth. Here is an opportunity to employ sport as a healing tool. Yes?
You said it better than me. Yes, yes, yes.
It remains impossibly sad and infinitely enraging. The victims are forgotten over and over. What is wrong with the human species that people do this - first the crime, and then the ignoring? The hype about the university, its football, and its misplaced hero-worship are not meaningless, but they cannot hold a candle to the issues around the victims. How are they being helped? What is really being done to see that this does not happen again? Sad. Angry. Still.
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