Thursday, May 17, 2007

We're Friends, Right?

I hear that Dooce devotes entire posts to her hate mail. I thought about doing that, seriously. But there really hasn't been any certifiable hate mail in this past year of blogging. Some serious very much I dislike you mail, but no HATE mail.

Also some rather invasive, creepy mail. Not much spam, and nothing I'd write to Blogger about, and I haven't called the FBI. But it feels creepy.

Me exposing someone as a creep feels creepy to me, even if it works for Dooce. I'm not her, and being me, you don't get to even hear me swear (for the most part). So why in the world would I let you read something creepy.

Here we talk lashon (rhymes with trah-tone) naki (pah-key) .
We talk in clean language on this blog.

I bring this up because on Sunday, May 20, 2007 we're doing the First Carnival of All Substances, a collection of posts from people who have mega-experience with drugs and/or alcohol, even food and sex addictions.

Some bloggers (okay, most bloggers) are pretty loose and throw off expletives in this very fashionable I-don't-give-a-blank-that-I'm-swearing attitude. So I've had to say NO to submissions for the carnival that have words I find objectionable.

But we're still friends, right? I'm not your therapist (probably), in cyberspace I'm just another friend. We've established that if you need therapy you have to go to a therapy doc, someone local.

We're friends.

So is this okay that I don't post your stuff if it bothers me?
It's just gotta' be, peops. It's just gotta' be.

Love and Peace,

therapydoc

8 comments:

Mark said...

Makes sense.

Swan said...

I think not only is it okay, but it is also commendable. If you have standards, you shouldn't ignore them because someone might not like it/it won't be popular.

Plus, they can do what they want on their blog; you're not saying everyone should adopt your view, just that you won't post things on your blog that have objectionable content.

Having boundaries and maintaining them is not only healthy, but it's a form of courage you might say. A good example for the rest of us. :)

therapydoc said...

Thanks!

msb said...

I think your blog is A+ and your intentions are honorable. The world is a better place for that my friend.

triLcat said...

how can you @#$@# say that? We have a @#$#@%@$% right to cuss! It's free @#$^#% speech! I mean @%$%^#$%^! Don't you %^$#%#$%^ think that $%#^$^ is an acceptable way of @%$%^@^ expressing myself?!

Just because you choose to keep your mouth clean doesn't mean you should $^^$&^&^%#$ wash mine out with soap!

(and yes, every set of symbols is a different curse... not sure which ones, but...there are enough, aren't there???)

Sorry... I have a bizarre sense of humor.

I agree completely. Your house, your rules.

t.c.

therapydoc said...

Trilcat--LOL, nothing bizarre about this sense of humor, either!

Holly Schwendiman said...

I think it's refreshing to read real life experience and input without all the color from vulgar language. We live in a world that screams - live and let live - the louder and more vulgar the better - everyone else does so that makes it okay, etc. So I appreciate very much the few who acknowledge that everyone has a right and choice but it doesn't have to be adopted or accepted by everyone. And this is coming from one who has many a close and dear friend that can't complete a sentence without the use of multiple expletives - wonderful people who just happen to habitually swear and curse. The big question in my mind is when/how did it become easier to drop in expletives for meaningful adjectives? Maybe it's training and fequency based...don't know but I do know that I appreciate knowing people who can express themselves beautifully without it.

Hugs,
Holly

therapydoc said...

Maybe we could start a movement. Nah.