Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Back A'cha'

So here's the deal. FD tells me there's a holiday coming up (like I didn't notice the succah in the back of the house, the timeless temporary house that he miraculously constructs in his abundant spare time and says, Here, dear, now go and decorate it.)

But it's not like he says, Hire a decorator. We're talking old posters and lights and bee zappers. And I can't find any of it.

It's a great holiday. Anyway, he says, there's a holiday and I think you should forget about work, forget about blogging, just settle into our new home and chill with me awhile.

Would you refuse such an offer? Of course not.

So although I love you guys, you're on your own for a few days. And pardon the extra editions of the last post. I don't know what happened there, why it came out more than once for email subscribers.

Anyway, to keep you busy, you get the monthly or whatever it is between posts send up of bloggers who linked to me recently. You've got nothing else to do, right?

I'm starting with the latest thing in personal development blogging. A personal development blogger named Priscilla took the time to develop a community. Years ago, my machutin's brother, Steve (a machutin is a guy whose son married your daughter) told me that he built communities on the internet. He put people with common interests together.

That was cool, but it was like, uh, sure. Then I see it actually happens! Priscilla made a list of almost 500 such bloggers. Those of us on this list are flying around the blogosphere like Harry Potter in Albania (wait, he never did go to Albania, did he? I'm not intentionally spoiling if he did, I'm in the last 100 pages)

Most of us get our personal development in front of the tube. So do I have to thank each and every one of these bloggers? It seems like a terribly complicated thing to do. But I'll mention a couple of you, and post the list below. I'm also trying to add you people to Technorati favorites when the website cooperates (and it doesn't). In no particular order, Creation Thoughts also lists the whole list, as in, If You're a Personal Development Junkie, and A Writer's Words, An Editor's Eye also goes at it and delivers cool stuff about writing if you're into that.

This list even made it into Totally Fabulous, also fabulous, and Mum'sHaveLive's Too. There's a wonderful Yogi on it with a truly yogish name that has many letters, mostly consonants. Check out DNA (that's what I'm calling him for short.

Enough personal development. We prefer regression, right?

We've got Furious Seasons who raves (as in disses) certain psychopharmaceuticals. I'm telling you now, if you're taking one of them, don't stop just because you heard it on the blogosphere! Please! If you bother with this, read my comment.

For more on psychobabble, we've got Bipolar Blast, who spleens the label. My take on that is if you don't like the label, then you certainly don't need the social security disability benefit that comes along with it. With all dues respect, BB.

Okay, back to reality.

The Skwib is only mildly bizarre, and talks pirate on command.

MOVIE bloggers include the movie guru, ProductionBlog:Film Junkie yes, I know we don't use that word junkie lightly, but here it is twice in one post. Then there's Mr. Nehring's film blog, always great.

History bloggers would be Walking the Berkshires and Life Lessons of a Military Wife

For MOMMY blogging (we need at least a couple, come on) tag stay at home mom. Sometimes the graphics on these things makes them worth the trip. Same goes with Adventures of a Super Mommy and Spit Up Boy: Saving the World Before NapTime.

There's a blogger out there who actually feels you should be health conscious.

And a certain SURGEON (Weird AL?) No, not weird Al, it's Unbounded Medicine, check it out. FD would say that it must be a relief to feel unbound practicing medicine these days.

Another blogger thinks it might be cool to Find Religion, like your mother didn't tell you, and personal blogger liza, let's her hair down on the mountaintop.

The BEST Jewish blog of the week is about forgiving people publicly on the Internet. Other good ones include Esser Agarot (10 agarot amount to maybe one cent) and the Judaic Journal, which might actually be written by a young teenager. If so, he's amazing. He's amazing in any case.

And Rubicon3 is full of interesting non-sequitors, as a blogger should be. IsraelPlug plugs into John Cleese as an anti-semite (so funny). And let's NOT forget Rafi G., Life in Israel, one of the original Israel blogs and still one of the best. The balabustah isn't your mama's balabustah, and Yehudah is still gaming and blogging when we KNOW he's got better things to do. (as in?)

Odds and ends include Guilty Secret (love that title, don't you?) and The Witch and the Princess, talk about splitting the personality

Here's that list of personal development bloggers, as if you didn't have enough on your plate.

I'm going to hang around my succah.

All the best,

therapydoc

Aaron Potts at Today is That Day


Adam Alexander at Adam’s Peace



Adam Kayce at Monk at Work


Adam Khoo at Adam Khoo’s Philosophies and Investing Insights


Adebola Oni at Life Lessons


AgentSully at Life Learning Today


Al at 7pproductions.com


Alan Torres at Made to Be Great



Alex Shalman at AlexShalman.com


Alexander Kjerulf at The Chief Happiness Officer


Alexys Fairfield at Unraveling The Spiritual Mystique, and Speak The Speech


Albert Foong at urbanmonk.net


Albert Lee at My Journey to Living an Exceptional Life



Alvaro at Sharp Brains Blog


Amber at Amber Waves


Amber at Random Mangus


Amel at AmelsRealm


Amie Ragan at Psychology of Clutter


Amit Sodha at The Power of Choice



Amy Hedin at There is no Maximum to Human Potential


Andrea Learned at Learned on Women


Andrea J. Lee at Money, Meaning, and Beyond


Andrew Brunelle at Andrew Brunelle.com


Andy Wibbels at AndyWibbels.com


Anita Pathik Law at Power of Our Way



Anmol Mehta at AnmolMetha.com


Ann at A Nice Place in The Sun


Anna Farmery at The Engaging Brand


Antonio Thornton at AntonioThornton.com


April Groves at Making Life Work For You


Argancel at C’eclair (for those who speak french)



Ariane Benefit at Neat & Simple Living


Ash aka Mr. Biggs at One Powerful Word


Ashley Cecil at The Painting Activist


Ask Lucid at Ask Lucid Spiritual Development


BK Diva at Bklyn’s Finest



Barb Lattin at Feels Like Magic


Barb Melloh at The Law of Attraction Info


Barbara Curtis at Mommy Life


Barbara Sliter at Creatorship


Bea Kunz at Bea’s Beatitudes


Belle Wong at Abundance Journal



Ben Casnocha at Ben Casnocha: The Blog


Ben Yoskovitz at Instigator Blog


Benjamin at WOWNDADI


Beth at Butterfly Thoughts


Bill Perry at Lucid Blog


Billy Smith at The Organic Leadership Blog



Blogfuse at LifeDev


Bluskygirl at LifeGoddess.com


Brad Isaac at Achieve It


Brett Farmiloe, James Whiting, Noah Pollock and Zach Hubbell at Pursue The Passion


Brian Clark at Copyblogger


Brian Kim at briankim.net



Brian Lee at geniustypes.com


Brightfeathers at this time-this space


Brooke at Plain Advice


Bob at everyeveryminute


Bob Crawford at Bob Crawford Online


Bolly at Motivational Corner



Boston Gal at Boston Gal’s Open Wallet


Byron Katie at Byron Katie.com


Cam Beck at ChaosScenario


Cara Lumen at The Success Magnets With Cara Luman and Your Second Wind Blog



Cardin Lilly Routh at OptimistLab


Carlon Haas at Possess Less Exist More


Carol Skolnick at Soul Surgery


Catherine Carter at Continuum Wellness


Cheif Family Officer at Cheif Family Officer


Chris at The Philosophy of Change



Chris at One is All and All is One


Chris Brogan at Chris Brogan.com


Chris Cade at Spiritual Short Stories


Chris Cree at SuccessCREEations


Chris Marshall at Martial Development


Chris Melton at Soupornuts.com



Chris Owen at Pink Apple


Christina Katz at Writer Mama


Christine Kane at ChristineKane.com


Christine Valters Painter at Abbey of the Arts


Christy Z at Totally Fabulous


Clyde at Feeling Good



Colin Beavan at No Impact Man


Colleen Wainwright of Communicatrix


Conceive, Believe, Achieve at Conceive, Believe, Achieve


Confessing at 7Confessions


Cooper at Wonderland or Not


Corrine Edwards at Personal Growth with Corrine Edwards



Corey at Cooking With Corey


Crabby McSlacker at Cranky Fitness


Craig Harper at Motivational Speaker


Craze at Crazedreamer’s Thoughts


Curt Rosengren at Occupational Adventure


Cyres at Cyres Matters



Damian Carr at Soul Terminal


Daniel Roach at Daniel Roach.org


Daniel Sitter at Idea Sellers


Danny Kohn at Be Inspired Everyday


Daria Black at Figmeant Writing Studio and Community


Darlene Siddons at Spirited Boutique



Darren Rowse at Problogger.net


Dave Pollard at How to Save the World


Dave Schawbel at The Personal Branding Blog


Dave Schoof at Engaging the Disquiet


Davers at Language Trainers Blog


David Allen at The David Allen Company



David Bohl at Reflections on Balance


David Finch at David Finch.com


David Richeson at 360 Degree Success


David Rogers at How to Have Great Self Confidence


David Seah at David Seah.com


David Zinger at Slacker Manager



Dawn and Ann at Twisted Sister


Dawn Goldberg at Write Well Me


Dawn Vinson at Daydreaming on Paper


Dawud Miracle at dmiracle.com


Daylle Deanna Schwartz at Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Dean Lacono at Law of Attraction for Beginners



Deb at Mind Body and Solar


Deb2012 at Fibromaylgia and Wellness


Debbie Call at Spirit In Gear


Debbie LaChusa at 10 Step Marketing Collection


Deborah aka Zephry1 at Climate of Our Future


Debra at 28 Years Later



Debra Moorhead at Debra Moorhead.com


Denise Mosawi at Destineering.com


Derrick Kwa at Sui Generis


Desika Nadadur at Desika Nadadur.com


Devlyn Steele at Tools To Life Guide


Diane Cese at Everything Yoga



Dick Richards at Come Gather Round


Dominic Tay at Personal Development for Winners


Don Simkovich at Hey Don


Donald Latumahina at Life Optimizer


Donald Trump and others at The Trump Blog


Donna Karlin at Perspectives



Donna Steinhorn at Rethinking


Douglas Eby at Talent Development Resources


Dr. Charles Parker at The Core Psych Blog


Dr. Hal at Northstar Mental fitness blog


Dr. Michael Shea at From Pain to Personal Gain


Dr. Tim Sharp at The Happiness Institute



Drew Rozell at Drew Rozell.com


Dwayne Melancon at Genuine Curiosity


E Murphy at The Active Life


Edward Mills at Evolving Times


Edward Smith at Bright Moment


Edith Brown at JETEAK PRESS WRITER BLOG



Edith Yeung at Dream Think Act


Elizabeth Badurina at Modern Gypsy


Elle Mgee at Ever Hopeful, Ever Thankful


Ellen Weber at Brain Based Business


Ellesse at Goal Setting College


Elly Jolly at Jolly Life Coaching



Emily G. W. Lilly at The Science of Waldorf Education


Emmanuel Lopez at The Adventures of Motivatorman


Enoch Tan at Mind Reality


Eric Boehme at The Blogging Boss


Eric Napier at Quotation Collection


Erin Pavlina at Erin Pavlina.com



Ev Nucci at My Life is Murphy’s Law


Evelyn Lim at Attraction Mind Map


Evelyn Rodriguez at Crossroads Dispatches


Evolving Excellence at Evolving Excellence


Farouk Radwan at 2KnowMySelf


Frank at Re/Transformation



Frank Kanu at Frank Uncovers Excellence in Leadership


Frank Roche at KnowHR Blog


Galba Bright at Tune Up Your EQ


Garr Reynolds at Presentation Zen


Gary at Personal Strategic Plan


Gary Evans at Good to Feel Good.com



Gerri at Absolutely True


Gilad Buchman at Sigsug


Gleb Reys at Personal Development Ideas


Glenda Watson Hyatt at Do It Myself Blog


Grayson at Modern Worker Blog


Greg Butler at holistic-personal-development.com



Greg Frost at ChargedAudio.com


Geoff R at Gearfire.net


George Vasu at 360


Golbguru at Money, Matter, and More Musings


Gretchen Rubin at Happiness Project


Gustav at Success-is-in-you.com



Guy Kawasaki at How to Change the World


Gyanish at Diethack


Halina Goldstein at The Inner Travel Journal


Hatter at Dreaming to Infinity


Hilda Carroll at Living Out Loud


Heather Goldsmith at A Creative Journal



Helgi Pall Einarsson at Everyday Wonderland


Henrik Edberg at The Positivity Blog


Holly Jo at Evolving Blueprint


Holly Sumner at The Abundance Place


Honman at Open Your Mind to Prosperity


Hueina Su at Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul



Ilyria at Finding Norway


Inkedmn at The Cranking Widgets Blog


Irene Becker at Just Coach It


Isabella Mori at MoriTherapy


Isha at Isha Yoga


Itzy Sabo at Email Overloaded



JC at Job Life Upgrade


Jacin Steele at Jacin Steele.com


Jack Vinson at Knowledge Jolt with Jack


Jackie at The Painted Veil


Jackie Ford at The Vegan Diet


Jacklyn Ker at Inspiring and Empowing Lives



James and Karen at visualized.Feel.Abundance


Jarle Husefest at The Personal Development Blog


Jason and Michael at Black Belt Productivity


Jason Ivers at A Miracle a Day


Jason Womack at Fit and Effective


Jay White at dumb little man tips for life



Jean Browman at Transforming Stress Into Power and Cheerful Monk


Jeane Michelle Culp at Binding Ink


Jeanne May at Aspirations Plus


Jeannette Maw at Good Vibe Coaching


Jeanie Marshall at Empowerment and Meditation Blog and DailyAffirm: Positive Affirmations Day by Day



Jeff Davidson at Breathing Space Blog


Jeff Lilly at Druid Journal


Jeffrey Phillips at Think Faster


Jenna Glatzer at Hot Diggity


Jennifer at Goodness Graciousness


Jennifer Mannion at Heal Pain Naturally



Jenny Ryan at Using My Powers For Good


Jenny and Erin at Jenny and Erin


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Jerry Hart at Blue Print to emarketing


Jerry Lopper at Personal Growth


Jessa at clairvoyantGuidance.net



Jessica Hagy at Indexed


Jim and Emma at Go Smell The Flowers


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Jim Walton at Black In Business


JoLynn Braley at The Fit Shack


Joan Schramm at Accelerating Momentum



Joanna Young at Coaching Wizardry


Joanne at I’m Happy Fish


JodeeB at You Already Know This Stuff


Joe Vitale at Dr. Joe Vitale at Zero


Joel at Fearless Dreams


Johann at Johann The Dog, The Days of Johann, and Rescue Me



John Allison at Technology for Living


John Chow at John Chow Dot Com


John Pratt at John Pratt International


John Place at John Place Online


John W. McKenna at The Leadership Epidemic


John Wesley at Pick The Brain



Joi Sigers at Self Help Daily


Jon at Join The Secret


Jon King at The Effective Life


Jon Willis at Self Happiness


Jonathan at Smart Wealthy Rich and Freelance Folder



Jordan at The Abe Blog


Jory Des Jardin at Pause: Meaningful Work


Josh Bickford at Reach For Magnificence and Reach for Magnificence


Josh Kaufman at The Personal MBA


Joshua Denny at Catalyst for Change



Judy Martin at The Work/Life Monitor


Julia Rogers Hamrick at Julia’s Blog: Journal of the Journey Home to Eden


Julie Bonner at Declutter It


Kailani at An Island Review


Kammie Kobyleski at Passion Meets Purpose


Kara-Leah Masina at Be Conscious Now



Karen at Journey with Water Learner


Karen at Square Peg People


Karen Lynch at Live The Power


Karen Putz at A Deaf Mom Shares Her World


Karen Wallace at The Clearing Space


Karl Moore at Karl Blog.com



Karl Staib at Karl Staib.com


Kathy Mallary at Coaching Biz Tips


Keith Ferrazzi at Never Eat Alone


Kelly at Kellymentology


Ken Dow and Martin Cooper at Creativity Happens


Kenton Whitman at kentonwhitman.com



Kevin Kinchen at Creative Power of Thought


Killeris at Attitude, The Ultimate Power


Kim and Jason at Escape Adulthood


Kim George at Doing What You Can Do


Kimber Chin at Client K


Kirk Nugent at Kirk Nugent.com



Krishan Singh at Kundalini Yoga Blog


Kirsten Harrell at Ipopin


Krishna De at Biz Growth News and Todays Women in Business


Kristen King at Lively Women


K.L. Masina at Be Conscious Now



LJW at Heavenly Inclinations


Lauchlan Mackinnon at Think Differently


Laura at Heaven is Inside


Laura at Orgjunkie


Laura Howard West at Cafe Entrepreneur


Lawrence Cheok at A Long, Long Road



Laura Young at The Dragon Slayer’s Guide to Life


Leah Maclean at Working Solo


Leigh at The Lab


LeisureGuy at Later On


Lee Nutter at bmindful


Leo Babauta at Zen Habits



Lianne at Excessively Diverted by Divine Mojo


Liara Covert at Dream Builders


Life Reflection at Universe in a Single Atom


Lilifixt at Feel Happy


Lillie Ammann at A Writers Words, An Editor’s Eye


Linda Hernestal da Silva at Daily Power Walk



Linda Salazar at Awaken The Genie Within


Lisa Braithwaite at Speak Schmeak


Lisa Gates at Design Your Writing Life


Lisa Haneberg at Management Craft, Two weeks to a Breakthrough Blog, and Chile Pepper High


Lisa McGlaun at LifePrints - Good News for a More Compassionate World



Lisa Mills at Work at Home Mom Revolution


Lisa Q at 40s Singleness-Dating in Your 40s


Lisa Van Allen at Finish Strong


Liz at Internet Marketing Strategies


Liz Strauss at Successful Blog


Lodewijkvdb at How to be an Original



Lola Fayemi at Real World Spiritual and Personal Development


Lori Grant and Debbie at Smart Lemming


Lorie Marrero at The Clutter Diet Blog


Lorraine Cohen at Powerfull Living


Luciano Passuello at Litemind.com


Lucid at Spiritual Suggestions



Lumosity at Brain Health Blog


Lyman Reed at Creating a Better Life


Lyndon Antcliff at LyndonAntcliff.com and Cornwallseo.com


Lynn McTaggert at Living The Field


Lynne Morrell at Lynn Morrell.com and Musings From The Edge



MT at MindTWEAKS


Madame X at My Open Wallet


Maddy at Illuminated Minds Want to Know


Maki at Dosh Dosh


Malathy Badri at Laws of Universe


Malcolm Campbell at The Round Table



Mallika, Gotham, and Deepak Chopra, and Shekhar Kapur at IntentBlog


Manny at Success Books


Maria Gajewski at Never The Same River Twice


Maria Garcia at Get Organized Now


Maria Palma at The Good Life


Marianne Williamson at Journal



Marion at Herbal Connection


Marilyn Jenett at Feel Free to Prosper and Feel Free to Prosper Ryze Network


Marney K. Makridakis at Artella


Mark at The Naked Soul


Mark Forster at Get Everything Done



Mark LaPierre at The Winding Path


Mark McManus at Build Your Life To Order


Mark Sanborn at Mark Sanborn.com, and You Don’t Need a Title to Be a Leader


Mark W Shead at Productivity 501


Martin Avis at Kickstart Daily



Mary K at Becoming Your StellarSelf


Matthew Cornell at Matt’s Idea Blog


Matthew M. Costello at The Winning Attitude


Max Coutinho at Max


Meg Haworth at Life Lessons From Your Soul


Melanie Benson Strick at The Success Blog



Merlin Mann at 43 Folders


Mert at Almost Somewhat Positive


Meryl K. Evans at Meryl.net


Michelle at aMusing My Genius


Michelle at Binding INK III


Michelle Moore at Happiness Blog



Michael Port at The Think Big Revolution


Michael Vanderdonk at TOACH Performance


Michael Werner at Dream Jobs Dialog


Mike Janssen at Opgestroopte Mouwen


Mike Kemski at BANABU


Mike St. Pierre at The Daily Saint



Millionaire Mommy Next Door at Millionaire Mommy Next Door


Mimi Lennox at Mimi Writes


Mizzy Bohemia at Miz BoheMia’s Rhapsody


Mona Grayson at Question The Mind


Monte Ladner at Fitness Rocks


Moneymonk at Moneymonk



Mr.Wang at Mr Wang Says So


MsJayy at Jackie Young Writes


My Everyday Planner at My Everyday Planner


My Mind on Books at My Mind on Books


Mystical Monkey at One Mystical Monkey


NCN at No Credit Needed



Nancy Mills at The Spirited Woman


Nancy Tierney at Unconditional Confidence


Neal Donald Walsh at Conversations With God


Neil Patel at Quick Sprout


Nic Askew at Monday 9AM Blog


Nick Smith at Life 2.0



Nita at Moments


Nneka at Balanced Life Center


Ordinary Mystic at The Ordinary Mystic


Organize-It at Organize-It


Pamala Slim at Escape From Cubicle Nation


Pamm Larry at My Secret Spiritual Dance



Patrick Combs at Good Thinking Co.


Patricia Klingler at Remarkable Women Speak


Patricia Singleton at Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker


Patti Digh at 37 Days


Paul at Paul’s Tips


Paul Piotrowski at Self Help Wisdom



Paula Kawal at Paula Kawal.com


Peggy Payne at Peggy Payne’s Boldness Blog


Penelope Trunk at The Brazen Careerist


Peter at I Will Change Your Life


Peter Aldin at Great Circle



Peter Haslem at Necessary Skills


Phil Gerbyshak at Make It Great


Philip J Eby at Dirt Simple.org


Philippe Matthews at Shockwealth


Pia at Courting Destiny


Polli at Polliwog’s Pond



Prem Rao at People at Work and Play


Priscilla Palmer at Personal Development Demands Success


Priya Florence Shah at Soul Kadee


Quint Jensen at Win Your Mind


Ray Dotson at Fresh Blog


Raymond Salas at Zenchill Powertools



Real Modern Man at Real Modern Man


Reg Adkins at ElementalTruths


Rhonalala at The Harder I Work, The Luckier I Am


Ricardo at Wake Up Tiger


Rich Schefren at Strategic Profits


Rick Cockrum at Shards of Consciousness



Rick Cooper at The PDA Pro


Ririan at Ririanproject


RivKaz at Waterlearner


Rob at 7Breaths


Rob Cooke at Leave the Office


Robert at Compassionate Council



Robert at Myselfdev


Robert Ashcroft at PDSS Online


Robert Hruzek at Middle Zone Musings


Robin Skeen at Robin’s Reflections


Robin Yapp at Yapp 3.0


Robyn McMaster at Brain Based Biz



Roger Von Oech at Creative Think


Rolf F. Katzenberger at Evomend


Rosemary at Parkinson’s Disease and Peripheral Neuropathy


Rosa Say at Managing With Aloha Coaching


Ryan Marle at The Alpha Project


S.J. Yee at Personal Development for the Book Smart



Sam at Aquire Wisdom and Live with Passion


Sammy Simpson at The Tune In.com


Sandee at Comedy Plus


Scott Adams at The Dilbert Blog


Scott Andrew Bird at Scott Andrew Bird.com


Scott Berkun at Berkun Blog



Scott Bernadot at Keeping The Secret


Scott Ginsberg at Hello, My Name Is Blog


Scott H Young at Scott H Young


Scott McArthur at McArthur’s Rant


Secret Simon at The Secret of Life


Self Pursuit at Self Pursuit



Senia at Senia.com Positive Psychology Coaching


Seth Godin at Seth’s Blog


2 Know My Self at 2KnowMySelf


Shane Navratil at Zoomstart


Shaun Boyd at LifeReboot.com


Shauna Arthurs at Breathing Prosperity and Follow Your Path



Shaheen Lakhan at GNIF Brain Blogger


Simone at Dynamic Living


Simone and Mandy at Outfit Inspirations


Single Ma at Single Ma’s Fabulous Financials


Slade Roberson at Shift Your Spirits and Spiritual Blogging



Sleeping Dude at How to Wake Up Early


Sonora Jayne Case at Positive Realities Coaching


Sophiagurl at Life is Just Around the Corner


Spike at Organize It


Spiritlifter at Intentional Abundance


Stacy Brice at Virtualosophy



Start Up Coach at Take Charge of Your Life


Stay at Home Mom at Insanity’s Oasis


Stephanie and Jeffrey at Brains on Purpose


Stephen at HD bizblog


Stephen Hopson at Adversity University


Stephen Shapiro at Stephen Shapiro.com



Steve Beisheim at Jumping Ship Happens


Steve Grossman at Why I failed


Steve Harper at The Ripple Effect


Steve King at The Green Geek


Steve Moore at Personal Development Blog


Steve Olson at Steve-Olson.com



Steve Pavlina at stevepavlina.com


Steve Roesler at All Things Workplace


Steven Aitchison at Change Your Thoughts


Success Current at SuccessCurrent.com


Sue Ann Edwards at Always Embraces All Ways


Sunny Schlenger at SunCoach.com



Surjit at Gurushabad


Susan at Got2BeGreen


Susan R. Meyer at Life Work Cafe


Susan Sabo at Productivity Cafe


Susie at The Accidental Environmentalist


Susanna Kompogiorgas at Flowing Chi



Suzanne Bird-Harris at Learning Curve Coaching


Suzanne Falter-Barns at Discover Your Joy


Takeshi at Nakayima


Takuin Minamoto at Takuin.com


Taylor at Mom’s Out There


Ted Demopoulos at Blogging For Business



Teesha Moore at TeeshaMorre.com


Tejvan at Sri Chinmoy Inspiration


Terry Starbucker at Ramblings From a Glass Half Full


Therapy Doc at Everyone Needs Therapy


Thom Quinn at Qlog


Titus-Armand at Project Armand



Tiffany at Little Red Suit


Tim Ferris at 4-Hour Workweek and Lifestyle Design Blog


Tim Taylor at My Agapic Life


Tim Warren at Personal Development4U


Tina Su at Tina Su.com


Tish at The Kat House



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Tom LeDree at Tom LeDree.com


Tom Peters at Tom Peters.com


Tom Spanton at TRCoach


Tom Van Brunscot of Transformation Economy


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Travis Wright at Cultivate Greatness


Tricia at Blogging Away Debt



Tricia at Loving Farewells


Trisha at Insanity’s Oasis and Fat Insanity


Trizoko at Trizoko.com


Trent Hamm at The Simple Dollar


Trevor Gay at Simplicity is the Key



Troy Worman at Orbit Now!


Tuck Self at Rebel Belle Blog


Tupelo Kenyon at Tupelokenyon.com


Ubertech at Geeks Guide To GTD


Vanessa Vinos at Musings from a Life Coach


Vera Nadine at Vera Nadine.com



Vickie at Contemplate This


Wade Millican at The Middle Way


Wally Bock at Three Star Leadership


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Wan Qi at Meditation Forum Mantras


Wanda Grindstaff at Creating Abundant Lifestyles



Wendy Betterini at Wings For The Heart


Wild Bill at Passionate Blogger


Winsome at Winsome Gunning Art Walk


Zale Tabakman at Success Through Balance


Zorka at Essential Life Skills


and these collaborated sites:



Blogher’s Religion and Spirituality “department”


Burst Blog


Change This


Change Your Thinking


Daily PlanIt


Did I Get Things Done


GTD Wannabe


Jobman2



Joyful Jubilant Learning


Life Coaches Blog Stratagies for a Greater Life


Lifehack.org


Lifehacker.com


Phattitudes.com


TED Blog


Transformational Girlfriends


Transfoundation


Unclutterer



Winslowscalling


And these for those of you who speak Russian:


Anatoly Tikhomirov at Personal Efficacy

Armen Petrosyan at Thought Storage #428


Irina Chelnokova at Women Path

Michael Subach at LifeIdea.org

Sergey Biryukov at Personal Development in Russian


Vitaly Kolesnik at Kolesnik.ru

Vladimir Rundan at Living is Great!

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Self-denial and Fasting

Remember those days when I said that I wouldn't talk about my religion? And yet,

All over the world readers are asking,
How did you break your fast after Yom Kippur, TherapyDoc? Please tell us what you ate. We know how health conscious you are.
Ah, breaking the fast. We just completed a powerful day at the synagogue, a 25 hour fast, no food, no drink. All to atone for our sins and everybody else's (Meaning all Jews are in it together. It's one of our enmeshed things we do, atone as a people).

But it's still a lot of sins, no matter how you cut it. I hear, by the way, that the Catholic priests are sending letters home to members of their congregation to come back to confession. Is this because therapy's not working? Is it working for us ethnics? Ya' have to wonder.

Back to the fast. At first I thought I'd title tonight's post Self-Denial. But then I thought, no, you don't deny "self" when you don't eat or drink. If anything, it's all you've got.

Then I thought, perhaps Self-Deprivation. That made more sense. But I asked FD, just to be sure, and he said, "Well actually, it's about resting from food. We take a break from the physical stuff. Oh, and it's about afflicting the body by not eating/drinking." Those are the reasons the Torah gives us for the commandment to refrain from these things on the 10th day of the 7th month. (Don't ask me to explain our calendar).

Right.

So we give it a rest, always a good thing. And at the end of the day, we say, It was worth it. The fast is worth standing all day, praising the Old Mighty, hoping He'll look askance at who we really are. The fast makes us tired, but not so tired. We roll our eyes at one another and point to our watches, feeling pretty bad until it's about to end, then we perk up.

We think about life, and how it hasn't been easy for us. We figure it out that easy isn't what it's all about, probably. Probably people who think that life is about making it easy or just being happy needs to rethink the concept.

We're always waiting for the other shoe to drop. And it will for everyone. The other shoe drops eventually. It HAS to. It's suspended on a thread up there somewhere, getting heavier and heavier until. . .

Kabam!

But even though life's not about being happy, I still hold by the idea that Happy Is Better and that's what we have to shoot for. That's what I keep telling all of the depressed people in the blogosphere. Let that lighter part of the brain reign as often and intensely as possible.

But it's still a sometime thing, like all emotional states. We aim for it daily, but like that song, that Porgy and Bess song, A Woman is a Sometime Thing, Being Happy is a sometime thing.

Anyway, back to the fast and After the Fast and food. Self-deprivation (you can try to relabel it as rest, but come on, really, we're stretching here) self deprivation is good for the character. It's another one of those, What doesn't kill you makes you stronger things (another TherapyDoc world view under the condition that you get therapy to work out the what didn't kill you).

Self-deprivation is the way to feeling grateful. Take away what you've got, take away your usual physically pleasuring comfort-props like food, water, AND sex, and Wow, Are We Ever Grateful To Merely eat, drink, and you know.

But the fast of Yom Kippur is really about atonement, which you do better when you're resting. The fast helps us atone, become more self-reflective. We get a wider lens by fasting, ironically, we think about bigger pictures.

And we regret regrettable deeds of the past year, and self-adjure for incredible laziness and lack of ambition, for not doing the things we'd promised we'd do at this time the year before. The apologizing to others thing can be brutal. But yes, we have a built in Fifth Step into this religion. (12-steppers know what I'm talking about). If we hurt someone, we have to make amends before Yom Kippur. He doesn't forgive us if we haven't tried to get forgiveness from people who matter.

People matter.

Anyway, at the end of the fast the prayers at the synagogue are so loud, so powerful, so full of emotion and meaning, they probably put Gospel meetings to shame. But ours are only once a year.

And as my son said, "And everyone is actually happy those last few minutes of the holiday, looking forward to food."

Chammie turned to me in the middle of the fast and said, "I could go for nachos."

Not skipping a beat, I added, "With the sourcream, avacado, green onions and tomato, right? Maybe add a pinto bean dip?" (People wanted to shush us, but you could tell they also wanted to tell us what they wanted to eat).

She wasn't so sure about the onions and brought up yellow toffee. Anyway, I have no idea what Cham ate after the fast (see, we're not enmeshed, okay?), but FD made me pancakes and I squirted real whipped cream from a can on the rest of a banana cream pie, and am now feeling no pain.

What was that about self-deprivation again?

Moving right along, a quick update on Tante Fela.

If you recall, last year she sat next to me for the High Holidays, a total stranger, a Holocaust survivor. We made friends, enjoyed being connected. I like meeting new people. And she had prayed, with fervor, Al tashichaini. Don't throw me away. (The root of that word, for those of you who are interested, is tashlich/to throw, the very same as in the ceremony some perform on Rosh Hashana, throwing symbolic sins into a river using bread crumbs or stones).

So this year (yes, she sat next to me, it was arranged) I listened to her and heard her emphasize, Al tashlichaini b'ais ziknah

Which means, Don't throw me away in my old age.

I turned to her and said, You? You're not old. She nodded and said, "I'm old, I'm old."

But both of us had kvetched about our backs hurting, so I said, Maybe not so old. And she smiled.

therapydoc

Friday, September 21, 2007

Here Today, Gone. . .

Abbey Brown of the Shreveport Times tells quotes the following:

"A clean slate," LaSalle Parish School Board member Billy Fowler said of why the tree was cut down in the past few weeks. "There's nothing positive about that old tree. It's all negative. And I'm serving on the new School Board, and we're wanting to start fresh on some things."

Read the post below.

See, I would have suggested, LEAVE IT UP. Remembering is the key, not forgetting. Fence it in. Put up a sign. Tell the world what happened there.
Say,

Never Again. No more KKK, No more nooses. No more intimidation.
I'd like to say, they were kids, they didn't mean it. They'll be ashamed when they're adults. But I'm not at all sure. So say, Never Again, and mean it. Start with education. It's a SCHOOL. This happened outside of a school.

From sundown Friday evening to sundown Saturday, according to my tradition, everyone and everything is judged. Tradition holds that that tree was judged last year on this day of the Jewish calendar.

May we all be judged favorably.

I was never one of those "peace on earth" people, but seriously, peace on earth,

TherapyDoc

Thursday, September 20, 2007

The Jena 6, over a year later


The town barbershop still refuses to serve Black people in Jena, Louisiana.
After rotting my brain on Fried Green Tomatoes (no, I don't think it needs a review, do you?) I flipped my mostly eggwhite and lots of muenster cheese omelet (perfection) onto a bagel with home-grown sliced tomatoes and returned to a warm teev.

CNN showed thousands upon thousands of civil rights protesters descending upon Jena (pronouced Geena), Louisiana, all up in arms about the Jena 6. This, while you and I went to work. Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson, according to news sources, said that the demonstration is about deteriorating race relations as much as justice gone wrong.

You know, if you live in an ivory tower, if you hang out with people who have had the privilege of a college education, it's entirely possible that you might fool yourself into thinking that indeed, because you actually love looking at the skin pigmentation of other people, that perhaps racism is on a decline.
But it's not in the good old South.

The fellow on CNN credited the blogosphere for the demonstration. Were it not for cybernet interest, there would be no interest, basically.

I went directly to the Internet, of course. Tom Leonard, reporting for the Telegraph in the UK, gives us the following:
The six teenagers were arrested after Justin Barker, 17, was beaten unconscious last December at school. The attack followed an incident at the school in which three nooses were hung from a tree in the school-yard.

The tree had traditionally been a gathering place for white students but, the day before the nooses appeared, some black classmates had met there.

Justin Barker, aged 17, was beaten unconscious. Significantly for the protesters, the local prosecutor decided not to charge the three white students who hung the nooses.
Five of the six were initially charged with attempted murder; the charges for the sixth were not disclosed as he was a juvenile.

Although the attempted murder charges were later reduced to battery, it did little to quell the anger among black Americans who came to yesterday's protest by the busload from all over the country.
That's today.

So I cut to the original story from June, 2006 at WhileSeated.org, complete with cool Utube video.

Here's a chunk from that historic post:
In September 2006, a group of African American high school students in Jena, Louisiana, asked the school for permission to sit beneath a "whites only" shade tree. There was an unwritten rule that blacks couldn't sit beneath the tree. The school said they didn't care where students sat. The next day, students arrived at school to see three nooses (in school colors) hanging from the tree. (Please note, the tree above is not the tree, but a tree at Jena High School.)

The boys who hung the nooses were suspended from school for a few days. The school administration chalked it up as a harmless prank, but Jena's black population didn't take it so lightly. Fights and unrest started breaking out at school. The District Attorney, Reed Walters, was called in to directly address black students at the school and told them all he could "end their life with a stroke of the pen."

Black students were assaulted at white parties. A white man drew a loaded rifle on three black teens at a local convenience store. (They wrestled it from him and ran away.) Someone tried to burn down the school, and on December 4th, a fight broke out that led to six black students being charged with attempted murder. To his word, the D.A. pushed for maximum charges, which carry sentences of eighty years. Four of the six are being tried as adults (ages 17 & 18) and two are juveniles.

Yesterday, I was in Jena for the first day of the trial for Mychal Bell, one of the Jena 6. The D.A., perhaps in response to public pressure, tried to get Bell to cop a plea. Bell refused, and today, jury selection began. After today, we'll know whether or not the case will be tried in front of an all-white jury. Jena's 85-percent white, and it remains to be seen whether or not the six can get a fair trial.

Both off-the-record and on, Jena residents told me racism is alive and well in Louisiana, and this is a case where it rose above the levee, so to speak.

Seems to me, that energy of my generation is making a reappearance. So long a wait.

I wanna' be there next time.

Oh, and by the way. You know that you really should fry green tomatoes with a little olive oil, garlic, basil, s & p, right? Not just a dish from the South, you know.

therapydoc

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Owen Wilson's Suicide Attempt

You know that on occasion I get the skinny on Hollywood gossip, right? But keep in mind that my mother-in-law says that her mother used to say, Believe half of what you hear.

So believe half of this.

On Sunday the National Enquirer ran a story that Owen Wilson had cut his wrist and was hospitalized, cocaine in his system.

Then on Monday, Dafne Merkin wrote a piece in the New York Times Magazine (Darkness Invisible) and asked rhetorically:

In a culture that encourages outing everything from incest to pedophilia, is depression the last stigma, the one remaining subject that dares not gossip its name? Does a disclosure about depression, especially from someone who seems to have it all, violate an unspoken code of silence — or, at the least, make us radically uncomfortable with its suggestion of a blithe public face masking a troubled inner life?

She asks that question because the word on the street in Hollywood is that Mr. Wilson really didn't try to kill himself. We are to believe that he is a heroin addict who accidentally overdosed.

And it is his family that wants us to believe this. Rather than expose him as suffering from depression his whole life, the family told the press to spread the word about his "addiction."

Remember, I'm just spreading gossip here, but if it's true, and let's just say for the sake of argument that it is, then the poor guy isn't even granted the right to communicate cogently about his preferred final communication.

NOW THERE'S A POWERFUL FAMILY SYSTEM.

If it's true.

And I believe it's half true, the powerful family system part for sure.

Ms. Merkin's piece is written from experience, and is a poignant reminder that although we romanticize depression, it is far from sexy, and our culture respects, perhaps even admires the risky, self-destructive abuse of illicit drugs. Hurting one's self to get high is sexy, exciting.

Battling negative emotions is not.

As FD says, It is still considered a weakness to be depressed, especially for a macho guy like Owen Wilson who plays cowboy roles. It's bad for the career to be weak, as in paralyzed with sadness.

Apparently depression is stigmatic, but heroin addiction is IN. We're still not bored with celebrity rehab. The thought of Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Owen Wilsons (!?!#) getting stoned out of their gourds still turns us on.

Addiction's hot. Depression's well . . depressing.

Now, as a therapy doc, I have to tell you that indeed, addiction is not sexy. It is life threatening, no question and most people who have substance dependencies do not want them. The dual-diagnosed, those who suffer from both depression AND drug or alcohol dependency, aren't whistling Dixie, either.

I'm a little worried, frankly, that Hollywood makes out that it is cool to be a drug addict. The message to kids who are already looking to self-medicate for depression is, Get illegal drugs. You'll feel better and you'll be Cool.

Anti-depressants are for losers.*

Mr. Wilson? If you're out there? I hope you get well. Keep at it, for the sake of your talent. You make us happy when you're on screen.

And when you're well, tell the world exactly how hard it is to beat depression, but tell them that it's worth the fight. It is harder to beat depression and much more macho, than it is to use heroin. The fight against depression is positively heroic.

Be our hero, Owen. Take it on. You're in good company.

*FYI, I just read something (WSJ, not a real science journal) about current higher suicide rates for teenage girls associated with lower pharmaceutical prescriptions in that age group for antidepressants.

No kidding.

Shaking my head with confusion,

therapydoc

Monday, September 17, 2007

Paranoia

You pot smokers out there know what I'm talking about.

You're chilling on the deck, your neighbor steps out to toss out the trash, gives you a funny look and you think, Busted.

I've had patients tell me they had to stop smoking pot because the paranoia got so bad. A cop pulls up at a stoplight, turns his head and looks at you. You freak, come down fast, and you're not the same for the rest of the day. Aw.

The rest of us might say, If you weren't stoned you wouldn't have to deal with that, would you? You'd have nothing to be worried about.

Yes and no. Well, yes, probably, if you're a habitual stoner.

Those of you who are dealing with elderly parents, however, have quite another kettle of fish boiling. As FD says, if the brain doesn't get enough oxygen, if circulation is poor, if the heart's not pumping like it should, if a person's on one too many medications and needs all of them, if sleep is wanting, well, there's an accident waiting to happen.

And I read a study associating hearing loss and paranoia. OF COURSE HEARING LOSS WOULD BE ASSOCIATED WITH PARANOIA IN THE ELDERLY--THEY DON'T HEAR THINGS CORRECTLY. Sorry for shouting.

And as my geriatric psychiatric consultant in California is wont to say, Those mini-strokes the elderly suffer are virtually undetected until the patient suffers from a delusion. Then the docs suspect stroke. And a little anti-psychotic can go a long way.

Great, more meds. And go tell someone suffering from a delusion that he's suffering from a delusion. He'll say, YOU'RE the one who's delusional. When the mind plays tricks on you, and it's YOUR mind, you basically are going to trust your mind, not someone else's.

Such a Catch 22.

Well let's get clinical. It's what you pay me for. If you learn about paranoia in graduate school, what you'll learn is that there are at least two types: There's the type associated with the intense anxiety of Paranoid Schizophrenia (Axis I), and there's the type associated with a personality disorder, Paranoid Personality Disorder (Axis II).

Like Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder, they're difficult to differentiate sometimes. But unlike OCD versus OCPD, in which one makes the symptom bearer sick and the other makes everyone else sick, when the featured symptom is paranoia, everyone feels sick.

Let's take a quick look at the personality disorder. We do not diagnose this, of course, if a person is justifiably paranoid, as is often the case with immigrants who do not understand language or cues, minorities who suffer discrimination, and political or economic refugees who have been on the run.

The diagnostic criteria for 301.0 Paranoid Personality Disorder include:

A. A pervasive distrust and suspiciousness of others such that their motives are interpreted as malevolent, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by 4 or more of the following:
(1) suspects, without sufficient basis, that others are exploiting, harming, or deceiving him or her

(2) is preoccupied with unjustified doubts about the loyalty or trust-worthiness of friends or associates

(3) is reluctant to confide in others because of unwarranted fear that the information will be used maliciously against him or her

(4) reads hidden demeaning or threatening meanins into benign remarks or events

(5) persistently bears grudges, is unforgiving of insults, injuries, or slights

(6) perceives attacks on his or her character or reputation that are not apparent to others and is quick to react angrily or to counterattack

(7) has recurrent suspicions, without justification, regarding fidelity of spouse or sexual partner
B. Does not occur exclusively during the course of Schizophrenia, a Mood Disorder With Psychotic Features, or another Psychotic Disorder and is not due to the direct physiological effects of a general medical condition.

If a person had the personality disorder before the onset of schizophrenia, it's considered premorbid. In other words, a person diagnosed with schizophrenia can also have this disorder, but we add the suffix, "Premorbid".

Oy, it's not a good thing. And of course, the spouses of these individuals are often accused of having affairs, their friends and children of stealing, business associates deliberately try to cheat them. People look at them the wrong way, people wrong them. People think they're stupid.

These are angry people.

There is a strong association with child abuse, and you can see why. If you can't trust your own parents to take care of you and protect you, who can you trust?

You learn to trust only yourself. You get VERY strong, VERY tough, impenetrable. You're FINE all on your own.

I'm fine all on my own trickles into all kinds of relationships, doesn't it? It's one of the reasons people avoid intimacy, and it's why I would say it represents a fear of intimacy. How can you let yourself be vulnerable, how can you tell people your true feelings, your fears, your sadness, if you think you'll be punished for divulging that information?

Having feelings makes you a weakling, don't you know?

I'm not going to go into treatment right now, and I'm not going to list the features of paranoid schizophrenia for you. They're on this blog somewhere, probably in the Cho posts.

But I will say that I think when you notice these features in a person at any age, if you're intimately involved with this person or perhaps you are a blood relative, it might be worth it to gently confront it, to bring it up as a disorder. A tricky disorder. Because at some point you'll have to address it yourself, probably. You'll be the object of suspicion.

Or better yet, somehow, somehow, somehow, get that person to join you in therapy for a problem of your own so that he/she has a relationship with a mental health professional.

Trust me. You're going to need it.

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