Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Back A'cha'

So here's the deal. FD tells me there's a holiday coming up (like I didn't notice the succah in the back of the house, the timeless temporary house that he miraculously constructs in his abundant spare time and says, Here, dear, now go and decorate it.)

But it's not like he says, Hire a decorator. We're talking old posters and lights and bee zappers. And I can't find any of it.

It's a great holiday. Anyway, he says, there's a holiday and I think you should forget about work, forget about blogging, just settle into our new home and chill with me awhile.

Would you refuse such an offer? Of course not.

So although I love you guys, you're on your own for a few days. And pardon the extra editions of the last post. I don't know what happened there, why it came out more than once for email subscribers.

Anyway, to keep you busy, you get the monthly or whatever it is between posts send up of bloggers who linked to me recently. You've got nothing else to do, right?

I'm starting with the latest thing in personal development blogging. A personal development blogger named Priscilla took the time to develop a community. Years ago, my machutin's brother, Steve (a machutin is a guy whose son married your daughter) told me that he built communities on the internet. He put people with common interests together.

That was cool, but it was like, uh, sure. Then I see it actually happens! Priscilla made a list of almost 500 such bloggers. Those of us on this list are flying around the blogosphere like Harry Potter in Albania (wait, he never did go to Albania, did he? I'm not intentionally spoiling if he did, I'm in the last 100 pages)

Most of us get our personal development in front of the tube. So do I have to thank each and every one of these bloggers? It seems like a terribly complicated thing to do. But I'll mention a couple of you, and post the list below. I'm also trying to add you people to Technorati favorites when the website cooperates (and it doesn't). In no particular order, Creation Thoughts also lists the whole list, as in, If You're a Personal Development Junkie, and A Writer's Words, An Editor's Eye also goes at it and delivers cool stuff about writing if you're into that.

This list even made it into Totally Fabulous, also fabulous, and Mum'sHaveLive's Too. There's a wonderful Yogi on it with a truly yogish name that has many letters, mostly consonants. Check out DNA (that's what I'm calling him for short.

Enough personal development. We prefer regression, right?

We've got Furious Seasons who raves (as in disses) certain psychopharmaceuticals. I'm telling you now, if you're taking one of them, don't stop just because you heard it on the blogosphere! Please! If you bother with this, read my comment.

For more on psychobabble, we've got Bipolar Blast, who spleens the label. My take on that is if you don't like the label, then you certainly don't need the social security disability benefit that comes along with it. With all dues respect, BB.

Okay, back to reality.

The Skwib is only mildly bizarre, and talks pirate on command.

MOVIE bloggers include the movie guru, ProductionBlog:Film Junkie yes, I know we don't use that word junkie lightly, but here it is twice in one post. Then there's Mr. Nehring's film blog, always great.

History bloggers would be Walking the Berkshires and Life Lessons of a Military Wife

For MOMMY blogging (we need at least a couple, come on) tag stay at home mom. Sometimes the graphics on these things makes them worth the trip. Same goes with Adventures of a Super Mommy and Spit Up Boy: Saving the World Before NapTime.

There's a blogger out there who actually feels you should be health conscious.

And a certain SURGEON (Weird AL?) No, not weird Al, it's Unbounded Medicine, check it out. FD would say that it must be a relief to feel unbound practicing medicine these days.

Another blogger thinks it might be cool to Find Religion, like your mother didn't tell you, and personal blogger liza, let's her hair down on the mountaintop.

The BEST Jewish blog of the week is about forgiving people publicly on the Internet. Other good ones include Esser Agarot (10 agarot amount to maybe one cent) and the Judaic Journal, which might actually be written by a young teenager. If so, he's amazing. He's amazing in any case.

And Rubicon3 is full of interesting non-sequitors, as a blogger should be. IsraelPlug plugs into John Cleese as an anti-semite (so funny). And let's NOT forget Rafi G., Life in Israel, one of the original Israel blogs and still one of the best. The balabustah isn't your mama's balabustah, and Yehudah is still gaming and blogging when we KNOW he's got better things to do. (as in?)

Odds and ends include Guilty Secret (love that title, don't you?) and The Witch and the Princess, talk about splitting the personality

Here's that list of personal development bloggers, as if you didn't have enough on your plate.

I'm going to hang around my succah.

All the best,


Aaron Potts at Today is That Day

Adam Alexander at Adam’s Peace

Adam Kayce at Monk at Work

Adam Khoo at Adam Khoo’s Philosophies and Investing Insights

Adebola Oni at Life Lessons

AgentSully at Life Learning Today

Al at

Alan Torres at Made to Be Great

Alex Shalman at

Alexander Kjerulf at The Chief Happiness Officer

Alexys Fairfield at Unraveling The Spiritual Mystique, and Speak The Speech

Albert Foong at

Albert Lee at My Journey to Living an Exceptional Life

Alvaro at Sharp Brains Blog

Amber at Amber Waves

Amber at Random Mangus

Amel at AmelsRealm

Amie Ragan at Psychology of Clutter

Amit Sodha at The Power of Choice

Amy Hedin at There is no Maximum to Human Potential

Andrea Learned at Learned on Women

Andrea J. Lee at Money, Meaning, and Beyond

Andrew Brunelle at Andrew

Andy Wibbels at

Anita Pathik Law at Power of Our Way

Anmol Mehta at

Ann at A Nice Place in The Sun

Anna Farmery at The Engaging Brand

Antonio Thornton at

April Groves at Making Life Work For You

Argancel at C’eclair (for those who speak french)

Ariane Benefit at Neat & Simple Living

Ash aka Mr. Biggs at One Powerful Word

Ashley Cecil at The Painting Activist

Ask Lucid at Ask Lucid Spiritual Development

BK Diva at Bklyn’s Finest

Barb Lattin at Feels Like Magic

Barb Melloh at The Law of Attraction Info

Barbara Curtis at Mommy Life

Barbara Sliter at Creatorship

Bea Kunz at Bea’s Beatitudes

Belle Wong at Abundance Journal

Ben Casnocha at Ben Casnocha: The Blog

Ben Yoskovitz at Instigator Blog

Benjamin at WOWNDADI

Beth at Butterfly Thoughts

Bill Perry at Lucid Blog

Billy Smith at The Organic Leadership Blog

Blogfuse at LifeDev

Bluskygirl at

Brad Isaac at Achieve It

Brett Farmiloe, James Whiting, Noah Pollock and Zach Hubbell at Pursue The Passion

Brian Clark at Copyblogger

Brian Kim at

Brian Lee at

Brightfeathers at this time-this space

Brooke at Plain Advice

Bob at everyeveryminute

Bob Crawford at Bob Crawford Online

Bolly at Motivational Corner

Boston Gal at Boston Gal’s Open Wallet

Byron Katie at Byron

Cam Beck at ChaosScenario

Cara Lumen at The Success Magnets With Cara Luman and Your Second Wind Blog

Cardin Lilly Routh at OptimistLab

Carlon Haas at Possess Less Exist More

Carol Skolnick at Soul Surgery

Catherine Carter at Continuum Wellness

Cheif Family Officer at Cheif Family Officer

Chris at The Philosophy of Change

Chris at One is All and All is One

Chris Brogan at Chris

Chris Cade at Spiritual Short Stories

Chris Cree at SuccessCREEations

Chris Marshall at Martial Development

Chris Melton at

Chris Owen at Pink Apple

Christina Katz at Writer Mama

Christine Kane at

Christine Valters Painter at Abbey of the Arts

Christy Z at Totally Fabulous

Clyde at Feeling Good

Colin Beavan at No Impact Man

Colleen Wainwright of Communicatrix

Conceive, Believe, Achieve at Conceive, Believe, Achieve

Confessing at 7Confessions

Cooper at Wonderland or Not

Corrine Edwards at Personal Growth with Corrine Edwards

Corey at Cooking With Corey

Crabby McSlacker at Cranky Fitness

Craig Harper at Motivational Speaker

Craze at Crazedreamer’s Thoughts

Curt Rosengren at Occupational Adventure

Cyres at Cyres Matters

Damian Carr at Soul Terminal

Daniel Roach at Daniel

Daniel Sitter at Idea Sellers

Danny Kohn at Be Inspired Everyday

Daria Black at Figmeant Writing Studio and Community

Darlene Siddons at Spirited Boutique

Darren Rowse at

Dave Pollard at How to Save the World

Dave Schawbel at The Personal Branding Blog

Dave Schoof at Engaging the Disquiet

Davers at Language Trainers Blog

David Allen at The David Allen Company

David Bohl at Reflections on Balance

David Finch at David

David Richeson at 360 Degree Success

David Rogers at How to Have Great Self Confidence

David Seah at David

David Zinger at Slacker Manager

Dawn and Ann at Twisted Sister

Dawn Goldberg at Write Well Me

Dawn Vinson at Daydreaming on Paper

Dawud Miracle at

Daylle Deanna Schwartz at Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Dean Lacono at Law of Attraction for Beginners

Deb at Mind Body and Solar

Deb2012 at Fibromaylgia and Wellness

Debbie Call at Spirit In Gear

Debbie LaChusa at 10 Step Marketing Collection

Deborah aka Zephry1 at Climate of Our Future

Debra at 28 Years Later

Debra Moorhead at Debra

Denise Mosawi at

Derrick Kwa at Sui Generis

Desika Nadadur at Desika

Devlyn Steele at Tools To Life Guide

Diane Cese at Everything Yoga

Dick Richards at Come Gather Round

Dominic Tay at Personal Development for Winners

Don Simkovich at Hey Don

Donald Latumahina at Life Optimizer

Donald Trump and others at The Trump Blog

Donna Karlin at Perspectives

Donna Steinhorn at Rethinking

Douglas Eby at Talent Development Resources

Dr. Charles Parker at The Core Psych Blog

Dr. Hal at Northstar Mental fitness blog

Dr. Michael Shea at From Pain to Personal Gain

Dr. Tim Sharp at The Happiness Institute

Drew Rozell at Drew

Dwayne Melancon at Genuine Curiosity

E Murphy at The Active Life

Edward Mills at Evolving Times

Edward Smith at Bright Moment


Edith Yeung at Dream Think Act

Elizabeth Badurina at Modern Gypsy

Elle Mgee at Ever Hopeful, Ever Thankful

Ellen Weber at Brain Based Business

Ellesse at Goal Setting College

Elly Jolly at Jolly Life Coaching

Emily G. W. Lilly at The Science of Waldorf Education

Emmanuel Lopez at The Adventures of Motivatorman

Enoch Tan at Mind Reality

Eric Boehme at The Blogging Boss

Eric Napier at Quotation Collection

Erin Pavlina at Erin

Ev Nucci at My Life is Murphy’s Law

Evelyn Lim at Attraction Mind Map

Evelyn Rodriguez at Crossroads Dispatches

Evolving Excellence at Evolving Excellence

Farouk Radwan at 2KnowMySelf

Frank at Re/Transformation

Frank Kanu at Frank Uncovers Excellence in Leadership

Frank Roche at KnowHR Blog

Galba Bright at Tune Up Your EQ

Garr Reynolds at Presentation Zen

Gary at Personal Strategic Plan

Gary Evans at Good to Feel

Gerri at Absolutely True

Gilad Buchman at Sigsug

Gleb Reys at Personal Development Ideas

Glenda Watson Hyatt at Do It Myself Blog

Grayson at Modern Worker Blog

Greg Butler at

Greg Frost at

Geoff R at

George Vasu at 360

Golbguru at Money, Matter, and More Musings

Gretchen Rubin at Happiness Project

Gustav at

Guy Kawasaki at How to Change the World

Gyanish at Diethack

Halina Goldstein at The Inner Travel Journal

Hatter at Dreaming to Infinity

Hilda Carroll at Living Out Loud

Heather Goldsmith at A Creative Journal

Helgi Pall Einarsson at Everyday Wonderland

Henrik Edberg at The Positivity Blog

Holly Jo at Evolving Blueprint

Holly Sumner at The Abundance Place

Honman at Open Your Mind to Prosperity

Hueina Su at Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul

Ilyria at Finding Norway

Inkedmn at The Cranking Widgets Blog

Irene Becker at Just Coach It

Isabella Mori at MoriTherapy

Isha at Isha Yoga

Itzy Sabo at Email Overloaded

JC at Job Life Upgrade

Jacin Steele at Jacin

Jack Vinson at Knowledge Jolt with Jack

Jackie at The Painted Veil

Jackie Ford at The Vegan Diet

Jacklyn Ker at Inspiring and Empowing Lives

James and Karen at visualized.Feel.Abundance

Jarle Husefest at The Personal Development Blog

Jason and Michael at Black Belt Productivity

Jason Ivers at A Miracle a Day

Jason Womack at Fit and Effective

Jay White at dumb little man tips for life

Jean Browman at Transforming Stress Into Power and Cheerful Monk

Jeane Michelle Culp at Binding Ink

Jeanne May at Aspirations Plus

Jeannette Maw at Good Vibe Coaching

Jeanie Marshall at Empowerment and Meditation Blog and DailyAffirm: Positive Affirmations Day by Day

Jeff Davidson at Breathing Space Blog

Jeff Lilly at Druid Journal

Jeffrey Phillips at Think Faster

Jenna Glatzer at Hot Diggity

Jennifer at Goodness Graciousness

Jennifer Mannion at Heal Pain Naturally

Jenny Ryan at Using My Powers For Good

Jenny and Erin at Jenny and Erin

Jeremiah Owyang at Web Strategy by Jeremiah

Jerry Hart at Blue Print to emarketing

Jerry Lopper at Personal Growth

Jessa at

Jessica Hagy at Indexed

Jim and Emma at Go Smell The Flowers

Jim stroup at Managing Leadership

Jim Walton at Black In Business

JoLynn Braley at The Fit Shack

Joan Schramm at Accelerating Momentum

Joanna Young at Coaching Wizardry

Joanne at I’m Happy Fish

JodeeB at You Already Know This Stuff

Joe Vitale at Dr. Joe Vitale at Zero

Joel at Fearless Dreams

Johann at Johann The Dog, The Days of Johann, and Rescue Me

John Allison at Technology for Living

John Chow at John Chow Dot Com

John Pratt at John Pratt International

John Place at John Place Online

John W. McKenna at The Leadership Epidemic

John Wesley at Pick The Brain

Joi Sigers at Self Help Daily

Jon at Join The Secret

Jon King at The Effective Life

Jon Willis at Self Happiness

Jonathan at Smart Wealthy Rich and Freelance Folder

Jordan at The Abe Blog

Jory Des Jardin at Pause: Meaningful Work

Josh Bickford at Reach For Magnificence and Reach for Magnificence

Josh Kaufman at The Personal MBA

Joshua Denny at Catalyst for Change

Judy Martin at The Work/Life Monitor

Julia Rogers Hamrick at Julia’s Blog: Journal of the Journey Home to Eden

Julie Bonner at Declutter It

Kailani at An Island Review

Kammie Kobyleski at Passion Meets Purpose

Kara-Leah Masina at Be Conscious Now

Karen at Journey with Water Learner

Karen at Square Peg People

Karen Lynch at Live The Power

Karen Putz at A Deaf Mom Shares Her World

Karen Wallace at The Clearing Space

Karl Moore at Karl

Karl Staib at Karl

Kathy Mallary at Coaching Biz Tips

Keith Ferrazzi at Never Eat Alone

Kelly at Kellymentology

Ken Dow and Martin Cooper at Creativity Happens

Kenton Whitman at

Kevin Kinchen at Creative Power of Thought

Killeris at Attitude, The Ultimate Power

Kim and Jason at Escape Adulthood

Kim George at Doing What You Can Do

Kimber Chin at Client K

Kirk Nugent at Kirk

Krishan Singh at Kundalini Yoga Blog

Kirsten Harrell at Ipopin

Krishna De at Biz Growth News and Todays Women in Business

Kristen King at Lively Women

K.L. Masina at Be Conscious Now

LJW at Heavenly Inclinations

Lauchlan Mackinnon at Think Differently

Laura at Heaven is Inside

Laura at Orgjunkie

Laura Howard West at Cafe Entrepreneur

Lawrence Cheok at A Long, Long Road

Laura Young at The Dragon Slayer’s Guide to Life

Leah Maclean at Working Solo

Leigh at The Lab

LeisureGuy at Later On

Lee Nutter at bmindful

Leo Babauta at Zen Habits

Lianne at Excessively Diverted by Divine Mojo

Liara Covert at Dream Builders

Life Reflection at Universe in a Single Atom

Lilifixt at Feel Happy

Lillie Ammann at A Writers Words, An Editor’s Eye

Linda Hernestal da Silva at Daily Power Walk

Linda Salazar at Awaken The Genie Within

Lisa Braithwaite at Speak Schmeak

Lisa Gates at Design Your Writing Life

Lisa Haneberg at Management Craft, Two weeks to a Breakthrough Blog, and Chile Pepper High

Lisa McGlaun at LifePrints - Good News for a More Compassionate World

Lisa Mills at Work at Home Mom Revolution

Lisa Q at 40s Singleness-Dating in Your 40s

Lisa Van Allen at Finish Strong

Liz at Internet Marketing Strategies

Liz Strauss at Successful Blog

Lodewijkvdb at How to be an Original

Lola Fayemi at Real World Spiritual and Personal Development

Lori Grant and Debbie at Smart Lemming

Lorie Marrero at The Clutter Diet Blog

Lorraine Cohen at Powerfull Living

Luciano Passuello at

Lucid at Spiritual Suggestions

Lumosity at Brain Health Blog

Lyman Reed at Creating a Better Life

Lyndon Antcliff at and

Lynn McTaggert at Living The Field

Lynne Morrell at Lynn and Musings From The Edge


Madame X at My Open Wallet

Maddy at Illuminated Minds Want to Know

Maki at Dosh Dosh

Malathy Badri at Laws of Universe

Malcolm Campbell at The Round Table

Mallika, Gotham, and Deepak Chopra, and Shekhar Kapur at IntentBlog

Manny at Success Books

Maria Gajewski at Never The Same River Twice

Maria Garcia at Get Organized Now

Maria Palma at The Good Life

Marianne Williamson at Journal

Marion at Herbal Connection

Marilyn Jenett at Feel Free to Prosper and Feel Free to Prosper Ryze Network

Marney K. Makridakis at Artella

Mark at The Naked Soul

Mark Forster at Get Everything Done

Mark LaPierre at The Winding Path

Mark McManus at Build Your Life To Order

Mark Sanborn at Mark, and You Don’t Need a Title to Be a Leader

Mark W Shead at Productivity 501

Martin Avis at Kickstart Daily

Mary K at Becoming Your StellarSelf

Matthew Cornell at Matt’s Idea Blog

Matthew M. Costello at The Winning Attitude

Max Coutinho at Max

Meg Haworth at Life Lessons From Your Soul

Melanie Benson Strick at The Success Blog

Merlin Mann at 43 Folders

Mert at Almost Somewhat Positive

Meryl K. Evans at

Michelle at aMusing My Genius

Michelle at Binding INK III

Michelle Moore at Happiness Blog

Michael Port at The Think Big Revolution

Michael Vanderdonk at TOACH Performance

Michael Werner at Dream Jobs Dialog

Mike Janssen at Opgestroopte Mouwen

Mike Kemski at BANABU

Mike St. Pierre at The Daily Saint

Millionaire Mommy Next Door at Millionaire Mommy Next Door

Mimi Lennox at Mimi Writes

Mizzy Bohemia at Miz BoheMia’s Rhapsody

Mona Grayson at Question The Mind

Monte Ladner at Fitness Rocks

Moneymonk at Moneymonk

Mr.Wang at Mr Wang Says So

MsJayy at Jackie Young Writes

My Everyday Planner at My Everyday Planner

My Mind on Books at My Mind on Books

Mystical Monkey at One Mystical Monkey

NCN at No Credit Needed

Nancy Mills at The Spirited Woman

Nancy Tierney at Unconditional Confidence

Neal Donald Walsh at Conversations With God

Neil Patel at Quick Sprout

Nic Askew at Monday 9AM Blog

Nick Smith at Life 2.0

Nita at Moments

Nneka at Balanced Life Center

Ordinary Mystic at The Ordinary Mystic

Organize-It at Organize-It

Pamala Slim at Escape From Cubicle Nation

Pamm Larry at My Secret Spiritual Dance

Patrick Combs at Good Thinking Co.

Patricia Klingler at Remarkable Women Speak

Patricia Singleton at Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker

Patti Digh at 37 Days

Paul at Paul’s Tips

Paul Piotrowski at Self Help Wisdom

Paula Kawal at Paula

Peggy Payne at Peggy Payne’s Boldness Blog

Penelope Trunk at The Brazen Careerist

Peter at I Will Change Your Life

Peter Aldin at Great Circle

Peter Haslem at Necessary Skills

Phil Gerbyshak at Make It Great

Philip J Eby at Dirt

Philippe Matthews at Shockwealth

Pia at Courting Destiny

Polli at Polliwog’s Pond

Prem Rao at People at Work and Play

Priscilla Palmer at Personal Development Demands Success

Priya Florence Shah at Soul Kadee

Quint Jensen at Win Your Mind

Ray Dotson at Fresh Blog

Raymond Salas at Zenchill Powertools

Real Modern Man at Real Modern Man

Reg Adkins at ElementalTruths

Rhonalala at The Harder I Work, The Luckier I Am

Ricardo at Wake Up Tiger

Rich Schefren at Strategic Profits

Rick Cockrum at Shards of Consciousness

Rick Cooper at The PDA Pro

Ririan at Ririanproject

RivKaz at Waterlearner

Rob at 7Breaths

Rob Cooke at Leave the Office

Robert at Compassionate Council

Robert at Myselfdev

Robert Ashcroft at PDSS Online

Robert Hruzek at Middle Zone Musings

Robin Skeen at Robin’s Reflections

Robin Yapp at Yapp 3.0

Robyn McMaster at Brain Based Biz

Roger Von Oech at Creative Think

Rolf F. Katzenberger at Evomend

Rosemary at Parkinson’s Disease and Peripheral Neuropathy

Rosa Say at Managing With Aloha Coaching

Ryan Marle at The Alpha Project

S.J. Yee at Personal Development for the Book Smart

Sam at Aquire Wisdom and Live with Passion

Sammy Simpson at The Tune

Sandee at Comedy Plus

Scott Adams at The Dilbert Blog

Scott Andrew Bird at Scott Andrew

Scott Berkun at Berkun Blog

Scott Bernadot at Keeping The Secret

Scott Ginsberg at Hello, My Name Is Blog

Scott H Young at Scott H Young

Scott McArthur at McArthur’s Rant

Secret Simon at The Secret of Life

Self Pursuit at Self Pursuit

Senia at Positive Psychology Coaching

Seth Godin at Seth’s Blog

2 Know My Self at 2KnowMySelf

Shane Navratil at Zoomstart

Shaun Boyd at

Shauna Arthurs at Breathing Prosperity and Follow Your Path

Shaheen Lakhan at GNIF Brain Blogger

Simone at Dynamic Living

Simone and Mandy at Outfit Inspirations

Single Ma at Single Ma’s Fabulous Financials

Slade Roberson at Shift Your Spirits and Spiritual Blogging

Sleeping Dude at How to Wake Up Early

Sonora Jayne Case at Positive Realities Coaching

Sophiagurl at Life is Just Around the Corner

Spike at Organize It

Spiritlifter at Intentional Abundance

Stacy Brice at Virtualosophy

Start Up Coach at Take Charge of Your Life

Stay at Home Mom at Insanity’s Oasis

Stephanie and Jeffrey at Brains on Purpose

Stephen at HD bizblog

Stephen Hopson at Adversity University

Stephen Shapiro at Stephen

Steve Beisheim at Jumping Ship Happens

Steve Grossman at Why I failed

Steve Harper at The Ripple Effect

Steve King at The Green Geek

Steve Moore at Personal Development Blog

Steve Olson at

Steve Pavlina at

Steve Roesler at All Things Workplace

Steven Aitchison at Change Your Thoughts

Success Current at

Sue Ann Edwards at Always Embraces All Ways

Sunny Schlenger at

Surjit at Gurushabad

Susan at Got2BeGreen

Susan R. Meyer at Life Work Cafe

Susan Sabo at Productivity Cafe

Susie at The Accidental Environmentalist

Susanna Kompogiorgas at Flowing Chi

Suzanne Bird-Harris at Learning Curve Coaching

Suzanne Falter-Barns at Discover Your Joy

Takeshi at Nakayima

Takuin Minamoto at

Taylor at Mom’s Out There

Ted Demopoulos at Blogging For Business

Teesha Moore at

Tejvan at Sri Chinmoy Inspiration

Terry Starbucker at Ramblings From a Glass Half Full

Therapy Doc at Everyone Needs Therapy

Thom Quinn at Qlog

Titus-Armand at Project Armand

Tiffany at Little Red Suit

Tim Ferris at 4-Hour Workweek and Lifestyle Design Blog

Tim Taylor at My Agapic Life

Tim Warren at Personal Development4U

Tina Su at Tina

Tish at The Kat House

Todd Goldfarb at We The Change

Tom LeDree at Tom

Tom Peters at Tom

Tom Spanton at TRCoach

Tom Van Brunscot of Transformation Economy

Tony Brigmon at Smile Notes

Tony Chimento at Living Forward

Tony D Clark at Success From The Nest

Torlink at You Create Reality

Travis A. Sinquefield at Disorganizational Behavior

Travis Wright at Cultivate Greatness

Tricia at Blogging Away Debt

Tricia at Loving Farewells

Trisha at Insanity’s Oasis and Fat Insanity

Trizoko at

Trent Hamm at The Simple Dollar

Trevor Gay at Simplicity is the Key

Troy Worman at Orbit Now!

Tuck Self at Rebel Belle Blog

Tupelo Kenyon at

Ubertech at Geeks Guide To GTD

Vanessa Vinos at Musings from a Life Coach

Vera Nadine at Vera

Vickie at Contemplate This

Wade Millican at The Middle Way

Wally Bock at Three Star Leadership

Walksfarwoman at Kissing The Dogwood

Wan Qi at Meditation Forum Mantras

Wanda Grindstaff at Creating Abundant Lifestyles

Wendy Betterini at Wings For The Heart

Wild Bill at Passionate Blogger

Winsome at Winsome Gunning Art Walk

Zale Tabakman at Success Through Balance

Zorka at Essential Life Skills

and these collaborated sites:

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Burst Blog

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Change Your Thinking

Daily PlanIt

Did I Get Things Done

GTD Wannabe


Joyful Jubilant Learning

Life Coaches Blog Stratagies for a Greater Life

TED Blog

Transformational Girlfriends




And these for those of you who speak Russian:

Anatoly Tikhomirov at Personal Efficacy

Armen Petrosyan at Thought Storage #428

Irina Chelnokova at Women Path

Michael Subach at

Sergey Biryukov at Personal Development in Russian

Vitaly Kolesnik at

Vladimir Rundan at Living is Great!

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Self-denial and Fasting

Remember those days when I said that I wouldn't talk about my religion? And yet,

All over the world readers are asking,
How did you break your fast after Yom Kippur, TherapyDoc? Please tell us what you ate. We know how health conscious you are.
Ah, breaking the fast. We just completed a powerful day at the synagogue, a 25 hour fast, no food, no drink. All to atone for our sins and everybody else's (Meaning all Jews are in it together. It's one of our enmeshed things we do, atone as a people).

But it's still a lot of sins, no matter how you cut it. I hear, by the way, that the Catholic priests are sending letters home to members of their congregation to come back to confession. Is this because therapy's not working? Is it working for us ethnics? Ya' have to wonder.

Back to the fast. At first I thought I'd title tonight's post Self-Denial. But then I thought, no, you don't deny "self" when you don't eat or drink. If anything, it's all you've got.

Then I thought, perhaps Self-Deprivation. That made more sense. But I asked FD, just to be sure, and he said, "Well actually, it's about resting from food. We take a break from the physical stuff. Oh, and it's about afflicting the body by not eating/drinking." Those are the reasons the Torah gives us for the commandment to refrain from these things on the 10th day of the 7th month. (Don't ask me to explain our calendar).


So we give it a rest, always a good thing. And at the end of the day, we say, It was worth it. The fast is worth standing all day, praising the Old Mighty, hoping He'll look askance at who we really are. The fast makes us tired, but not so tired. We roll our eyes at one another and point to our watches, feeling pretty bad until it's about to end, then we perk up.

We think about life, and how it hasn't been easy for us. We figure it out that easy isn't what it's all about, probably. Probably people who think that life is about making it easy or just being happy needs to rethink the concept.

We're always waiting for the other shoe to drop. And it will for everyone. The other shoe drops eventually. It HAS to. It's suspended on a thread up there somewhere, getting heavier and heavier until. . .


But even though life's not about being happy, I still hold by the idea that Happy Is Better and that's what we have to shoot for. That's what I keep telling all of the depressed people in the blogosphere. Let that lighter part of the brain reign as often and intensely as possible.

But it's still a sometime thing, like all emotional states. We aim for it daily, but like that song, that Porgy and Bess song, A Woman is a Sometime Thing, Being Happy is a sometime thing.

Anyway, back to the fast and After the Fast and food. Self-deprivation (you can try to relabel it as rest, but come on, really, we're stretching here) self deprivation is good for the character. It's another one of those, What doesn't kill you makes you stronger things (another TherapyDoc world view under the condition that you get therapy to work out the what didn't kill you).

Self-deprivation is the way to feeling grateful. Take away what you've got, take away your usual physically pleasuring comfort-props like food, water, AND sex, and Wow, Are We Ever Grateful To Merely eat, drink, and you know.

But the fast of Yom Kippur is really about atonement, which you do better when you're resting. The fast helps us atone, become more self-reflective. We get a wider lens by fasting, ironically, we think about bigger pictures.

And we regret regrettable deeds of the past year, and self-adjure for incredible laziness and lack of ambition, for not doing the things we'd promised we'd do at this time the year before. The apologizing to others thing can be brutal. But yes, we have a built in Fifth Step into this religion. (12-steppers know what I'm talking about). If we hurt someone, we have to make amends before Yom Kippur. He doesn't forgive us if we haven't tried to get forgiveness from people who matter.

People matter.

Anyway, at the end of the fast the prayers at the synagogue are so loud, so powerful, so full of emotion and meaning, they probably put Gospel meetings to shame. But ours are only once a year.

And as my son said, "And everyone is actually happy those last few minutes of the holiday, looking forward to food."

Chammie turned to me in the middle of the fast and said, "I could go for nachos."

Not skipping a beat, I added, "With the sourcream, avacado, green onions and tomato, right? Maybe add a pinto bean dip?" (People wanted to shush us, but you could tell they also wanted to tell us what they wanted to eat).

She wasn't so sure about the onions and brought up yellow toffee. Anyway, I have no idea what Cham ate after the fast (see, we're not enmeshed, okay?), but FD made me pancakes and I squirted real whipped cream from a can on the rest of a banana cream pie, and am now feeling no pain.

What was that about self-deprivation again?

Moving right along, a quick update on Tante Fela.

If you recall, last year she sat next to me for the High Holidays, a total stranger, a Holocaust survivor. We made friends, enjoyed being connected. I like meeting new people. And she had prayed, with fervor, Al tashichaini. Don't throw me away. (The root of that word, for those of you who are interested, is tashlich/to throw, the very same as in the ceremony some perform on Rosh Hashana, throwing symbolic sins into a river using bread crumbs or stones).

So this year (yes, she sat next to me, it was arranged) I listened to her and heard her emphasize, Al tashlichaini b'ais ziknah

Which means, Don't throw me away in my old age.

I turned to her and said, You? You're not old. She nodded and said, "I'm old, I'm old."

But both of us had kvetched about our backs hurting, so I said, Maybe not so old. And she smiled.


Friday, September 21, 2007

Here Today, Gone. . .

Abbey Brown of the Shreveport Times tells quotes the following:

"A clean slate," LaSalle Parish School Board member Billy Fowler said of why the tree was cut down in the past few weeks. "There's nothing positive about that old tree. It's all negative. And I'm serving on the new School Board, and we're wanting to start fresh on some things."

Read the post below.

See, I would have suggested, LEAVE IT UP. Remembering is the key, not forgetting. Fence it in. Put up a sign. Tell the world what happened there.

Never Again. No more KKK, No more nooses. No more intimidation.
I'd like to say, they were kids, they didn't mean it. They'll be ashamed when they're adults. But I'm not at all sure. So say, Never Again, and mean it. Start with education. It's a SCHOOL. This happened outside of a school.

From sundown Friday evening to sundown Saturday, according to my tradition, everyone and everything is judged. Tradition holds that that tree was judged last year on this day of the Jewish calendar.

May we all be judged favorably.

I was never one of those "peace on earth" people, but seriously, peace on earth,


Thursday, September 20, 2007

The Jena 6, over a year later

The town barbershop still refuses to serve Black people in Jena, Louisiana.
After rotting my brain on Fried Green Tomatoes (no, I don't think it needs a review, do you?) I flipped my mostly eggwhite and lots of muenster cheese omelet (perfection) onto a bagel with home-grown sliced tomatoes and returned to a warm teev.

CNN showed thousands upon thousands of civil rights protesters descending upon Jena (pronouced Geena), Louisiana, all up in arms about the Jena 6. This, while you and I went to work. Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson, according to news sources, said that the demonstration is about deteriorating race relations as much as justice gone wrong.

You know, if you live in an ivory tower, if you hang out with people who have had the privilege of a college education, it's entirely possible that you might fool yourself into thinking that indeed, because you actually love looking at the skin pigmentation of other people, that perhaps racism is on a decline.
But it's not in the good old South.

The fellow on CNN credited the blogosphere for the demonstration. Were it not for cybernet interest, there would be no interest, basically.

I went directly to the Internet, of course. Tom Leonard, reporting for the Telegraph in the UK, gives us the following:
The six teenagers were arrested after Justin Barker, 17, was beaten unconscious last December at school. The attack followed an incident at the school in which three nooses were hung from a tree in the school-yard.

The tree had traditionally been a gathering place for white students but, the day before the nooses appeared, some black classmates had met there.

Justin Barker, aged 17, was beaten unconscious. Significantly for the protesters, the local prosecutor decided not to charge the three white students who hung the nooses.
Five of the six were initially charged with attempted murder; the charges for the sixth were not disclosed as he was a juvenile.

Although the attempted murder charges were later reduced to battery, it did little to quell the anger among black Americans who came to yesterday's protest by the busload from all over the country.
That's today.

So I cut to the original story from June, 2006 at, complete with cool Utube video.

Here's a chunk from that historic post:
In September 2006, a group of African American high school students in Jena, Louisiana, asked the school for permission to sit beneath a "whites only" shade tree. There was an unwritten rule that blacks couldn't sit beneath the tree. The school said they didn't care where students sat. The next day, students arrived at school to see three nooses (in school colors) hanging from the tree. (Please note, the tree above is not the tree, but a tree at Jena High School.)

The boys who hung the nooses were suspended from school for a few days. The school administration chalked it up as a harmless prank, but Jena's black population didn't take it so lightly. Fights and unrest started breaking out at school. The District Attorney, Reed Walters, was called in to directly address black students at the school and told them all he could "end their life with a stroke of the pen."

Black students were assaulted at white parties. A white man drew a loaded rifle on three black teens at a local convenience store. (They wrestled it from him and ran away.) Someone tried to burn down the school, and on December 4th, a fight broke out that led to six black students being charged with attempted murder. To his word, the D.A. pushed for maximum charges, which carry sentences of eighty years. Four of the six are being tried as adults (ages 17 & 18) and two are juveniles.

Yesterday, I was in Jena for the first day of the trial for Mychal Bell, one of the Jena 6. The D.A., perhaps in response to public pressure, tried to get Bell to cop a plea. Bell refused, and today, jury selection began. After today, we'll know whether or not the case will be tried in front of an all-white jury. Jena's 85-percent white, and it remains to be seen whether or not the six can get a fair trial.

Both off-the-record and on, Jena residents told me racism is alive and well in Louisiana, and this is a case where it rose above the levee, so to speak.

Seems to me, that energy of my generation is making a reappearance. So long a wait.

I wanna' be there next time.

Oh, and by the way. You know that you really should fry green tomatoes with a little olive oil, garlic, basil, s & p, right? Not just a dish from the South, you know.


Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Owen Wilson's Suicide Attempt

You know that on occasion I get the skinny on Hollywood gossip, right? But keep in mind that my mother-in-law says that her mother used to say, Believe half of what you hear.

So believe half of this.

On Sunday the National Enquirer ran a story that Owen Wilson had cut his wrist and was hospitalized, cocaine in his system.

Then on Monday, Dafne Merkin wrote a piece in the New York Times Magazine (Darkness Invisible) and asked rhetorically:

In a culture that encourages outing everything from incest to pedophilia, is depression the last stigma, the one remaining subject that dares not gossip its name? Does a disclosure about depression, especially from someone who seems to have it all, violate an unspoken code of silence — or, at the least, make us radically uncomfortable with its suggestion of a blithe public face masking a troubled inner life?

She asks that question because the word on the street in Hollywood is that Mr. Wilson really didn't try to kill himself. We are to believe that he is a heroin addict who accidentally overdosed.

And it is his family that wants us to believe this. Rather than expose him as suffering from depression his whole life, the family told the press to spread the word about his "addiction."

Remember, I'm just spreading gossip here, but if it's true, and let's just say for the sake of argument that it is, then the poor guy isn't even granted the right to communicate cogently about his preferred final communication.


If it's true.

And I believe it's half true, the powerful family system part for sure.

Ms. Merkin's piece is written from experience, and is a poignant reminder that although we romanticize depression, it is far from sexy, and our culture respects, perhaps even admires the risky, self-destructive abuse of illicit drugs. Hurting one's self to get high is sexy, exciting.

Battling negative emotions is not.

As FD says, It is still considered a weakness to be depressed, especially for a macho guy like Owen Wilson who plays cowboy roles. It's bad for the career to be weak, as in paralyzed with sadness.

Apparently depression is stigmatic, but heroin addiction is IN. We're still not bored with celebrity rehab. The thought of Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Owen Wilsons (!?!#) getting stoned out of their gourds still turns us on.

Addiction's hot. Depression's well . . depressing.

Now, as a therapy doc, I have to tell you that indeed, addiction is not sexy. It is life threatening, no question and most people who have substance dependencies do not want them. The dual-diagnosed, those who suffer from both depression AND drug or alcohol dependency, aren't whistling Dixie, either.

I'm a little worried, frankly, that Hollywood makes out that it is cool to be a drug addict. The message to kids who are already looking to self-medicate for depression is, Get illegal drugs. You'll feel better and you'll be Cool.

Anti-depressants are for losers.*

Mr. Wilson? If you're out there? I hope you get well. Keep at it, for the sake of your talent. You make us happy when you're on screen.

And when you're well, tell the world exactly how hard it is to beat depression, but tell them that it's worth the fight. It is harder to beat depression and much more macho, than it is to use heroin. The fight against depression is positively heroic.

Be our hero, Owen. Take it on. You're in good company.

*FYI, I just read something (WSJ, not a real science journal) about current higher suicide rates for teenage girls associated with lower pharmaceutical prescriptions in that age group for antidepressants.

No kidding.

Shaking my head with confusion,


Monday, September 17, 2007


You pot smokers out there know what I'm talking about.

You're chilling on the deck, your neighbor steps out to toss out the trash, gives you a funny look and you think, Busted.

I've had patients tell me they had to stop smoking pot because the paranoia got so bad. A cop pulls up at a stoplight, turns his head and looks at you. You freak, come down fast, and you're not the same for the rest of the day. Aw.

The rest of us might say, If you weren't stoned you wouldn't have to deal with that, would you? You'd have nothing to be worried about.

Yes and no. Well, yes, probably, if you're a habitual stoner.

Those of you who are dealing with elderly parents, however, have quite another kettle of fish boiling. As FD says, if the brain doesn't get enough oxygen, if circulation is poor, if the heart's not pumping like it should, if a person's on one too many medications and needs all of them, if sleep is wanting, well, there's an accident waiting to happen.

And I read a study associating hearing loss and paranoia. OF COURSE HEARING LOSS WOULD BE ASSOCIATED WITH PARANOIA IN THE ELDERLY--THEY DON'T HEAR THINGS CORRECTLY. Sorry for shouting.

And as my geriatric psychiatric consultant in California is wont to say, Those mini-strokes the elderly suffer are virtually undetected until the patient suffers from a delusion. Then the docs suspect stroke. And a little anti-psychotic can go a long way.

Great, more meds. And go tell someone suffering from a delusion that he's suffering from a delusion. He'll say, YOU'RE the one who's delusional. When the mind plays tricks on you, and it's YOUR mind, you basically are going to trust your mind, not someone else's.

Such a Catch 22.

Well let's get clinical. It's what you pay me for. If you learn about paranoia in graduate school, what you'll learn is that there are at least two types: There's the type associated with the intense anxiety of Paranoid Schizophrenia (Axis I), and there's the type associated with a personality disorder, Paranoid Personality Disorder (Axis II).

Like Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder, they're difficult to differentiate sometimes. But unlike OCD versus OCPD, in which one makes the symptom bearer sick and the other makes everyone else sick, when the featured symptom is paranoia, everyone feels sick.

Let's take a quick look at the personality disorder. We do not diagnose this, of course, if a person is justifiably paranoid, as is often the case with immigrants who do not understand language or cues, minorities who suffer discrimination, and political or economic refugees who have been on the run.

The diagnostic criteria for 301.0 Paranoid Personality Disorder include:

A. A pervasive distrust and suspiciousness of others such that their motives are interpreted as malevolent, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by 4 or more of the following:
(1) suspects, without sufficient basis, that others are exploiting, harming, or deceiving him or her

(2) is preoccupied with unjustified doubts about the loyalty or trust-worthiness of friends or associates

(3) is reluctant to confide in others because of unwarranted fear that the information will be used maliciously against him or her

(4) reads hidden demeaning or threatening meanins into benign remarks or events

(5) persistently bears grudges, is unforgiving of insults, injuries, or slights

(6) perceives attacks on his or her character or reputation that are not apparent to others and is quick to react angrily or to counterattack

(7) has recurrent suspicions, without justification, regarding fidelity of spouse or sexual partner
B. Does not occur exclusively during the course of Schizophrenia, a Mood Disorder With Psychotic Features, or another Psychotic Disorder and is not due to the direct physiological effects of a general medical condition.

If a person had the personality disorder before the onset of schizophrenia, it's considered premorbid. In other words, a person diagnosed with schizophrenia can also have this disorder, but we add the suffix, "Premorbid".

Oy, it's not a good thing. And of course, the spouses of these individuals are often accused of having affairs, their friends and children of stealing, business associates deliberately try to cheat them. People look at them the wrong way, people wrong them. People think they're stupid.

These are angry people.

There is a strong association with child abuse, and you can see why. If you can't trust your own parents to take care of you and protect you, who can you trust?

You learn to trust only yourself. You get VERY strong, VERY tough, impenetrable. You're FINE all on your own.

I'm fine all on my own trickles into all kinds of relationships, doesn't it? It's one of the reasons people avoid intimacy, and it's why I would say it represents a fear of intimacy. How can you let yourself be vulnerable, how can you tell people your true feelings, your fears, your sadness, if you think you'll be punished for divulging that information?

Having feelings makes you a weakling, don't you know?

I'm not going to go into treatment right now, and I'm not going to list the features of paranoid schizophrenia for you. They're on this blog somewhere, probably in the Cho posts.

But I will say that I think when you notice these features in a person at any age, if you're intimately involved with this person or perhaps you are a blood relative, it might be worth it to gently confront it, to bring it up as a disorder. A tricky disorder. Because at some point you'll have to address it yourself, probably. You'll be the object of suspicion.

Or better yet, somehow, somehow, somehow, get that person to join you in therapy for a problem of your own so that he/she has a relationship with a mental health professional.

Trust me. You're going to need it.


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